No or rather yes, all correspondence has been through the solicitors.
I cant find your response !
Finances are all done !
Yes and he has already paid 2 out of the 3 installments. the 3rd is due in may.
There has been nothing signed to this effect. This is just ME being nice, having offered him a last chance to recover anything else he wanted. His solicitor replied that he would like these particular items. So I said fine just let me know when please.
This was nearly 2 months ago now, and he wants this stuff but will not tell me when they are being picked up. He says someitme in the next couple of months or so !
I have tried to put a time limit of the 15th March like I said to you before, but my solicitor wont have it. I CANNOT believe that I have to hold on to his things, which I offered in the first instance, for an indefinite period of time....could be a year before he decides to take them. That cannot be right.
I wish I hadn't even offered in the first place, I feel like such a push over !
Yes. as mentioned before, he has already paid the first 2 installments. The last one due in May.
The Decree Nisis will be issued on the 11th March. I have received today the "Certificate of entitlement".
Yes the finances have been court ordered.
thank you !
No, and you make an important point. I will put to my solicitor the question. As there has been nothing of the sort only good will on my part.
So once the Decree Nisi has been formally issued on the 11th March. AND there has been no court order regarding the remaining belongings or any items whatsoever, does that mean he has no further right to these items ?
So at what point before I die, can I get rid of it all ??? When do I get to know when I'm in the clear ?? one year after divorce 10 years after divorce 20 years after divorce ??
Or do I have to live with his belongings for the rest of my life until HE decides "gee actually I dont want them" !
I have been very tempted to do just that. It would be the best money spent to get the movers to take his stuff to him.
I dont suppose I could get in trouble for that ? Would I have to or should I give him or rather his solicitor something like a 24 hour notice ?
thank you so much for sticking with me today, really appreciate it !!
This has helped so much and triggered some questions I have for my solicitor.
I have had 2 people close to me involved who are professionals, both who have said I am so close to finishing this and should sit it out. there is a distinct feeling that my solicitor is not responding to my case in general, appropriatly and this will be dealt with at a later date.
I wish you all the best and thank you again, i just wanted to know what my rights are. I do find the law is so full of grey areas and sadly it seems the weaker person always seems to loose out.
My ex even lied and signed a legal document stating he was not in a new relationship nor cohabitating. I told my solicitor this was untrue and I could prove it and have witnesses. The witnesses being two of his closest friends who find his behaviour unacceptable. But alas, he got away with that and adultery. My ex is a very wealthy man who has always used this power to get people to do what he wants. I always joked how he was like the guy in "Godfather".
I found the Consent Order in my emails this one part reads:
ii) The contents of the Former Matrimonial Home shall remain the absolute property of the party in whose possession they now are.
Yes I am. We had a pre nup and we both agreed to honour it. I just didn't want to start a battle. I can hold my own financially and he probably out of guilt, has given me a large settlement he told me he would give me on the day he told me he didn't love me anymore. Fortunately, we have no children to battle over, only because he didn't want any. That was a big decision for me to decide to marry him. Now at 53 years old, I have no husband and no family either. I am not bitter but abhore unfairness and lies !
This money is being invested and provides sufficient interest income to pay for the house bills.