No it was through solicitors. We were never married and parted 8 years ago. At this time I had no rights and was not awarded any money re house we were living together in, as my name was not on the mortgage. He made me sign an agreement that I would not go to the CSA for more money, I recently tried to start this process and he said if I did he would stop all maintenance.
I am faced with a very domineering character that throws his presence around with great force.
The fact that I work, I have tried to be fair in the fact that anything should be 50/50.
He only has the children once every three weeks, but I am happy with that. I didn't have children for them not to be with me.
The only court order we have is holidays and joint parental responsibility order which he processed. But he doesn't actually keep to his agreed holiday, as in the case that he is supposed to have them for a week at Easter, but has completely dismissed it.
I have never gone through the CSA, when I tried to do something it was through a solicitor and her fees were £450 an hour, with his threat and her fees , I just thought I couldn't afford the stress and interfere with my business ie concentrate on what I could earn for the family.