My wife has a somewhat fiery and strong character compared to myself and our relationship over the years had become somewhat volatile. Unaware to myself last year she had sought rented accomodation about one mile from where we live and completely out of the blue last July informed me that she was taking the children to go and live at this other accomodation.
A brief history is that my previous wife passed away in 2000 and that my current wife was in 2001 invited to come and live with myself and my step son. Subsequently we moved into our current home into a new area in 2003. My step son now lives in Scotland with his blood relatives. My wife has a volatile nature and recently has been seeing a psycholgist and is on a course of anti depressants associated with suicidal tendancies. For this reason alone I am reluctant to upset her.
The situation is that financially I am struggling to support both properties. Initially we are reluctant to sell the main home as we are tied into a long term mortgage with significant penalties for early redemption.I am committed 100% in supporting the children however because of the substantial commitments we have to pay each month I find myself in a situation which as I mentioned previously that I am unable to provide any luxuries to the children whereas my wife now seems to be living a lavish lifestyle of weekends away in hotels and even commented that she had not been so well off.
Ideally what I am seeking is a ball park figure of what I should be paying each month to my wife as currently I am finding myself in a situation where I literally have no life because I cannot afford to do anything.
I think she is unlikely to return as she has spent a lot of money in the rented property furnishing it to a high standard and recently she has discussed both a divorce and the sale of the property in question.