We have a 50 50 agreement with kids.
We totally share kids on overnight care. Although I receive child benefit. We also share the cost of school clothing etc, but not personal stuff for kids.
The courts have never been involved as we did this 'amicably'. We financially split our business, cars, kids, other financial assets together. I was guided by a lawyer through legal aid, but it appears to have been forgotten that we need to split the home. I was legally advised that I would not be able to make him pay me off until my kids were 18.
At the time, I agreed he could stay in the house as his business was, and is run from there.
He pays mortgage. and his name is solely on the mortgage.
We periodically discuss paying me off... ie my share for which I always insist on 50% of the balance (about £54,000) after mortage etc . We stalemate as he says that's to much and tries to offer me less - not much, he just wants to be in the driving seat of the dealings, rather than me telling him how much. I see no reason to take less than 50%.
Recently he has been saying he dosn't want to increase his mortgage to raise the 54k. He is self-employed.
I am single and have managed to rent a place on my own and support myself. I am self employed (I receive low income support) He pays no maintenance. We share the kids 50 50.
My worry is the time lapse to resolve the house. I have a panic in my head that if it hasn't happened by 7 years I cannot demand anything, even though he is the one not paying up.
It needs resolving, for both our sakes, but I can't seem to get him to see it through. Theres always an excuse of 'not now'.