If he has said that to Social Services why do you not want to take that as his wishes?
What is your actual question?
I refuse to accept that he will not see me. I want to keep asking him until he changes his mind, and think a lawyer is the best person to persuade him to see it from a different perspective. For instance he could honour his mother-me. He could make an old woman happy. I have been upset and heartbroken without him all these years.