My daughter is now 16 months old, we separated when she was 3 months old and following the split I had my daughter 3 nights a week and extra hour alternate sundays. When my daughter was 11 months old my ex informed me I could only have my daughter one night per week and no other contact. I wanted a 50/50 shared care or as close to it as possible, my partner and I live 2 minutes from each other and we both work full time. I have not been given grounds for refusal as we were only in court on friday 21 june 2013 so I'm presuming the reasons will be in the court order.
Yes I was more than willing to compromise as at present I only get one night/day , i.e 4pm Friday until 4pm Saturday which doesny give me time to ever go anywhere with her as of the time constraints, I really wanted at the very least, alternate full weekends and cant quite understand why my ex doesnt.
Yrs we both gave evidence and cross examined but nothing regarding our statements were really mentioned which shocked me as my ex's statement was at best, a mistake and at worst, a lie. Her solicitor cross examined me on my new job regarding start and finish times but not a great deal more but my barrister didnt mention a single thing regarding my ex's behaviour over the last 5 months, an example being she would say my daughter was unwell on the day I was to see her so she would stay with her mum and I was made to wait another week until I could see her, plus not letting me see my daughter on her first birthday as it was not my day,obviously there are a lot of things in my statement about this kind of thing which is why I went to court to show there was no reason to the lack of contact other than bad feelings from my ex but as I said, not a single thing was mentioned and my barrister almost guided my ex into very good answers. I must add that there are no welfare issues on either side as we both agree we are good parents and so did CAFCASS.
my barrister didnt really give any guidance, i wanted 50/50 but my barrister said I definitely wouldnt get it but she knew I wanted a complete weekend but didnt come up with any offer to pass on so my ex only objected to the one offer I proposed of week 1, Mon over nigh tand take to nursery, Wed over night and take to nurseryt and Friday over night until 10am sat, week 2, mon, wed, friday until sunday but I knew this would get rejected but my barrister or my ex did not offer any other alternative, my ex didnt want Mia out over night through the week but nothing about alternate weekends was mentioned.