Yes i am and he has my Surname not his mothers.
No when his mother has been unable to look after him, i have just looked after him myself. I would not give Dylan (my son) back to his mother while she was drinking or unable to look after Dylan in any way and her parents (as well as my own) have agreed with this and supported me as well in the decisions that i have made. It was her mother who told me today that she is worried about the safety of Dylan as Helen (my Ex) is not capable of looking after him at the moment. I wanting to make sure that Dylan is safe and getting the attention that he needs and unfortunately Helen goes from one illness/condition to the next. First it was drinking then self harming and drinking, she has been caught shop lifting, and is on anti-depressants now (and has been for a long time) but seems to be having mental issues now.
no, the agreement we have at present is that he is with her from Monday morning until Thursday night and then i have him thursday through until Monday morning one week and then i collect him on a friday afternoon rather than thursday night the week after i.e 3 nights one week followed by 4 the week after. however he starts school/nursery in september and the plan was that i will drop him to school on a monday and pick him up on friday from school (it will be half days to start with as in nursery) as i work and his mother doesnt. She lives about 25 miles from me.