I now have another child aged 3 next month, and the part that is being abided by is impacting on my time with him. My ex is entitled to 2 hours on a Tuesday that he hasn't used in years, plus 9 to 5 Saturday one week and sunday the next. My son now stays overnight on the Friday before the Saturday access. We have a caravan 45 miles away that we go to every weekend between April and October, however, my exhusband insists on only travelling halfway to collect my son, meaning that I have to be tied to dropping my son off and collecting him for these access visits. My younger son has had to miss out on activities because of this.
I just wanted to know if it was simple to change it/get out of it, or whether I'm tied to something that we're not even sticking to 100% until my son is 16.
My son doesn't want to stay with him for a whole weekend which is why we don't do what you suggested. Would the court not take my son's wishes into account at all bearing in mind he is nearly 13? It seems crazy to think we're stuck trying to work with something that was put in place for a 2 year old with no get out clause until he's 16.
But the travel arrangements weren't agreed in the first order so I don't see how that's relevant. If we moved house to 45 miles away he'd have to travel to see him anyway. I'm not stopping his access in any way shape or form, just saying that I don't want to travel as it impacts on other areas of our lives. I really don't want to have to drag my son into court about this, but I would never have agreed to a court order when he was 2 if I'd known it was this difficult to change the arrangements when he was older. Thank you for your advice - no matter how annoying/depressing the response was.