we have been together since we were 15 yrs old , we have split up any times through the years and have different parnters, but it always seemed to as soon as i was settled he would turn up and talk me into making another go at thing which i always did, we got married in January 1999 and we were very happy up until now, before we got married i had my niece living with me she was 16 at the time and up and left me 9 month pregnant but we got through that yet again and moved on . the reason i think he is having an affair is all the signs are like they were then and he is denying this which he did right til the end as before. the house back in Hampshire is a rented property with testway housing which is both our names. the property in Wiltshire is a private rent and tenacy is in three names which is my husbands myself and my son ,as my son is one of the main workers for him, we also have my 3 year old granddaughter living with us due the split of my son and his partner,because she was ill treated and the plan was for me to look after her while the men were working ,my granddaughter has put a lot of pressure on us as she has problems, we were just starting to sort her out getting her into preschool , and now she,s all unsettled as she,s been moved around yet again. before we moved into yhe property in Wiltshire we were staying in a caravan which had no proper washing facilities or toilets but i was prepared to put up with this as it was for my marriage and to be with my husband ,as prior to this i stayed at home in Hampshire and worked, but was away from my husband for long periods of time, so i gave up everything to move and be with him as my marriage meant everything to me and still does although i don,t think theres any going back now that's on his paet. the buissness is agricultural contractors.
I don,t know any of this as I told you I had no hand dealings with any of it,and when I asked to see the bank statements and paperwork he had taken them to a bookkeeper, the assets are 3 tractors that on ire purchase 1 hedgetrimmer 2 pickup trucks that are all on hire purchase, he,s told me he,s thinking of selling 2 tractors , and then when he needs the tractors for work he will hire 2 tractors, which means during the winter when theres not much work on he won,t be paying out money that he doesn,t need to, he,s telling me there is no savings but he does everything on line so I really don,t know if there is any.
I,m 51 and I will have to look for another job if I can find one
I know he ears 4000plus vat a month for one job that he has managing the lorries for the company he contracts for, then theres the spreading sie of it which he could earn up to 40 000 plus then theres stock pileling and tractor and driver hire which he could earn around 6to 7 000 a month but this does vary sometimes depending how far they have to travel he also does other jobs like hedge trimming which could earn aroud 2000 I hope this helps but its all I can come up with.
bearing in mind sreading only happens once or twice a year and last for about 2 to 3 month depending on the tonnage and if the weather is good.
I just don't know as I cant get to anything this is why I need advice he has had repairs to the tractors which are quite expensive and he does have a really big bill due soon he had to have a new engine in one of the tractors but at the moment there tring to sort out a price he told me he it ws 2ooo but I think its being negotiated and he may get 40 per cent off. also is this advice going to cost me more than the 33 pounds that I have paid cos I,m getting worried it,s going to cost me more and I haven,t got much money
not sure because I don,t know how it all works and I don,t have any money to pay for anything, but if I was to go foe divorce where do I stand where the business is concered because he,s telling me,that if I come out of the business and there debt I would be liable to pay half and I haven,t got the money to that