If the will is held by solicitors, they are most unlikely to release it to either of you without both of your consents.
In any event, if you are joint executors, you are both going to have to work apply for probate unless one of you renounces.
In cases like this, even if this went to court, the court would not favour one or the other.
I’m afraid that it is going to be virtually impossible for you both to act as executors if you don’t want contact with each other.
Might I suggest that you get a solicitor to write (or write yourself) suggesting that a solicitor takes over the administration of the estate of behalf of the pair of you and then, you never have to see or communicate with each other.
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