My ex is emotionally and verbally abusive and unfortunately as a result, after nearly two years of torture, I ended up hitting him. I now have a caution against me which means he can get legal aid to get a joint residency order for my 1 year old son. I'm absolutely devastated, he has never lived with him and he has been in my full time care ever since he was born. I don't want to lose my son 50% of the time to this person. He is unstable and has even threatened suicide several times to try and hurt me. He abused me all the way during my pregnancy, when my son was a few weeks old and ever since. Is there really nothing I can do? I know I can't get legal aid. He has been on the phone tonight telling me he can get legal aid and I can't, I'm in bits...this is part of the abuse. How can I prove that I am a victim of domestic violence and not him? How can I be in control of when he sees my son and ensure that he isn't using him to get to me as I suspect he is. Is there a way of getting help without legal aid?
I am going to opt out of this for a colleague who I think is better placed to answer it than I am.
She is off-line at the moment but will pick it up probably tomorrow at some stage.
There is no need to do anything because she will pick it up .
please don't reply until then or it comes back into my inbox.