Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first.
How old are the children and why did you stop contact
Have you offered Contact at a Contact Centre?
Have you contacted local centres and asked?
What about if you travel out a little?
Where are the local centres?
Is there anyone else who could do it for you?
When is the next hearing due?
sorry just to check - it is your ex who abused you?
That was news to your wider family?
I assume your father has no contact with the chidlren
It is sad that your family will not support you in this.
You will need to write to the solicitor and say that there is no longer anyone willing to supervise this contact
Confirm that you are still willing to attend a Contact Centre if they can find a place that will take him
Alternatively say that if your ex is willing to pay an Independent Social Worker to supervise the contact then you will agree to that
but say that REGRETFULLY (and yes use the word) until the matter is resolved then contact is suspended but you hope THET can resolve it first.
It woudl be helpful if you could get a letter from the family member NOT commenting on the contact but confirming that they are no longer willing to help
I hope that this is of assistance - please ask if you need further details
You are welcome
At 5 your son is too young for his wishes to be relevant
Children of that age can be persuaded to say almost anything and they have very little understanding of consequences.
Assuming that you have always been the principal carer of the children your ex would have little chance of changing this