over the 21 years you could say her average wage would be £850. she only paid for council tax and a dentist denplan from it. All else was paid from my income. this is what a solicitor told me. that i could do nothing as I had no proof now at this time.
I have been able to get an actual account statement for the last year of its use.I have presented her facts of this and she just does not answer. the problem is that if in the last 3 years she has moved large amounts to her partners name to hide it then just what can i do. In a spread sheet about her finances it was shown that for 2 months in 2008 and 1 month in 2009 she saved a total £700. I asked about all the other months and about the 21 years of saving . No reply to any of this.
From the building society that was used. I still had info on the account. We are at the stage that she is demanding £60.000 from my property thats in my name only. am trying to get this money. she is my 2nd wife. we married in 1989 and I have owned this place since 1969.
No it was a joint account that I had little to do with and she had 2nd account in her name only. I had a letter left here showing how much she had when she closed her one and that was £9,066.54.on the joint one on 21st OCT 2009 it held £13,097 and she started by taking £9,000 out of it on that date. When close it had £4.012 that was split. In total of both she taken £24,972.54.
Do you mean mediation ? because at that last meeting when I had realised she had not declared all her monies and had more info to present while in her company, the mediator would not let me present the facts I had, she would only allow debate on the disclosure that was in print to all. nothing fresh on finances was allowed. Can I carry on with this tomorrow ? as I have a relative from Lancashire arrived here in Somerset. If so how do I get back to you ? I am not a great user of computers.
Hi. There are no debts and the asset declaration for mediation started all the problems. I declared all I had but did she? She always had saving and ISA accounts but did not declare any and its this that I wanted to question at the last meeting with all the info I now had and it was just not allowed. At one point in talks all pensions were taken out of asset comparison. To make things level between us I would have had to give her just over £16,000. But I pointed out the £25,000 she had taken and they just demanded more from me. I have a company pension that has a ridiculous pot of money in it that I could have never paid to it.
Do you mean in total value? I realise that the total value of both our assets would be divided to some agreement but I would still have this problem of her total. Was she declaring what she had saved and taken? she has shown that £300 pm was saved and over 21years plus the £25,000 its £100,600. that would not ave been added to that pot. How can it be fair and just that she could get away with no disclosure of what she may have.
Hers is 135,277 and mine without this stupid pension pot is £164,573.
even then at mediation I knew and could prove she had another £15000 she had not declared. I then had to get this cetv of my pension and that was the shock for they stated it was £270,000.
Her offer to me at present is that of no claim on each others assets but that I pay her half the house £60, 000.or she takes me to court.
Well no reply from you and I can guess why. That I should just pay her but let me now talk of another point in all this. We are both motorcyclists, she having 6 old and new motorcycles that she took with her. In her statement for divorce she more or less said she had stayed in an unhappy relationship for 16 years? So why ? well I am an engineer and a very experienced mechanic so for 16 years she used me to maintain her assets. She can claim on my property and my pension yet with this unfair legal system I cannot claim for any of the financial expenditure that I have saved her for that 16 years. At a low hourly cost I have saved her £334,000.
She is 64 has state pension and a small private pension. I am 68 and have the company pension and now a reduced state pension.
This is ridiculous. You ask all these questions but seem to give no help or advice on what I can do in my first question. What can I do to prove she has taken all this money from me.
Sorry but I don't think your asking the right things. I have evidence that she was able to save £200/£300 a month from her own wages for may be the 21years. I also have actual building society statements that show that in the last 9 months of her being here she took a total just under £25,000 out of them. I have NO proof that she has this money now. She has not declared that she has it. This is what I wish to know. How can I get proof.