My son has just turned 8 and his fathers name is XXXXX XXXXX birth certificate.
I would be as I feel it is important for our Son to see his Dad but I think that mediation or a court agreement is needed first hence me stopping access after his text to me telling me to keep away. I do not contact him or anyone else at all. The reason for this is that he keeps saying things to my son which are untrue about me, telling my son that he hates my guts and that he needs more access. Aside from him texting me the last 6 months I have and others have witnessed the change in my sons behaviour towards me. I have informed the school of my decision who are supportive and have also contacted social services and the police to also tell them of my decision until he agrees to mediation or court so it is in writing. He did not respond to my solicitors letter 1 1/2 years ago outlining access which until now I have stuck to. He has also refused to take our son to any of his clubs and have said that I am not to arrange things for him on his weekends even though he is tied in with various clubs etc.
I don't think he will go for more access as the arrangement has been working for the last year and a half - and also on two occasions he has said he cannot afford to have him and once I actually bought them lunch and gave them food which is documented so I have never denied access until now when he is telling our son that mummy might die from drinking - this was told to my mother but our son. This is where after him telling me to go nowhere near him or his flat and not getting in touch after our sons message I felt enough was enough and we need mediation or court. He also has four children from a previous relationship that he does not see apart from one who occasionally makes contact.
I had him evicted by the police for drug use and threatening suicide in front of me (not our son) for not leaving the home and me wanting to end our relationship. Our son witnessed threats and damaging my flat when he wouldnt leave. Since then it has been on and off through me trying to make things nice for our son with him but everytime it goes good he then shortly gets abusive. I understand about the separate phone and collection etc - he has now called 38 times - our son is playing currently with a friend. I have just texted him mediation or court as I want to sort this out. Many thanks
Many thanks - I have reported to police and have contacted a mediation organisation to attend with or without the ex.