Hello and thank you for your question. I will be very pleased to assist you. I'm a practicing lawyer in England with over 10 years experience.
Could you kindcly clarify one or two points for me? You mention that you have been told that his monies and belongings may have been given to this woman. May I ask given to her by whom please?
The home manager?
Did your husband make a will to your knowledge?
By staff at the home, a carer, I believe I know her name but it is pointless because there is no way I can prove it. That is the box as for the money no one will tell me.
Although we were told by another member of staff who we believed was the relief manager, told us that she would write a cheque and post it us on Monday. This did not happen, and so far Celia has not been available to talk to.
Thank you. Did you husband make a will?
Another mystery is that I understood a member of the head office staff whom had been nominated to manage the situation, has also evaded me. She promised to call back but never did and now I can't raise her. It's only a couple of days but does seem par for the course and I'm so fed up with them.
Please accept my apologies for delay in replying but I had to be out for most of the day.
No will has been found apart from some notes written on an envelope but legal. It only covers one aspect and I believe it is about an insurance for my daughter which if it exists will be honoured if I have any say in the matter. I'm waiting for these papers to arrive in the post.
Thanks. On that basis you have every say in the matter because the provisions of the Administration of Estates act apply and in the absence of a will this makes you your husbands administrator ( equivalent of executor where there is no will)
this means that you have rights to retain information about any matters relating to your husbands affairs and thanks, XXXXX XXXXX and any other individuals or organisations which hold information relating to husband must legally disclose information requested by you just as if your husband will requesting information himself
in addition, the legislation provides that if you have children together, you are entitled to the first £250,000 of your husband's assets and anything over the summer is to be shared between you and your children on terms provided by statute
accordingly, you may consider writing to the care home advising that you act as your husband's personal representative and require the information you have requested within seven days. The care home may be liable to you if they have released your husband's assets to the wrong individual and depending upon the information obtained, you may have a basis to issue proceedings against the care home for loss of any assets as well as against the lady refer to you may have received such assets and to forwarded your husband of money both prior to and after his death. You also may choose to involve the police as I believe you have already done.
Apologies, I had not seen this when I wrote my last message.
We did not have children together, Sam treated and was treated by my five children as his step children,
This is a very small amount of money in the scheme of things. I have no idea how much money is involved, Samuel had good pensions but I would imagine that he was paying for his care. Because the bank agreed to pay the deposit wanted by the undertakers and despite having seen the estimate paid and amount of about £200 extra I am assuming that is because that is the total balance left in the account..
From what you have told me it would appear that the bank will be obliged to pass details of the account/s to me fairly soon. I have also been told that the bank should repay the money that she spent on a shopping spree after Sam died, and that I should ask for all the money because it was unusual for money to be drawn in that manner. As far as I know she spent £5000 -£6000 after his death.
My problem is that I have to find the balance of the undertaker's bill withing 28 days. I shall have to see if I can come to an arrangement with them. I live on state pension and disablement allowance and one other pension from the DHS whom I worked for. In the end it doesn't matter if I get paid any extra as a widow because the I will loose any help I receive.
I am trying to edit my message however please forgive errors my sight deteriorates the longer I look at a computer screen. So I will not be on line until tomorrow.
Sincere apologies for misreading the situation and thank you for your answer which is helpful and entirely satisfactory.
Good Morning Joshua
I'm afraid that you have pointed out another complication, so although I want to give you your rating if I do it looks as if I will loose contact with you. So briefly if possible can I ask about his own family and children.
He had four children, a daughter who passed while an infant. Three sons.
Only one kept any kind of contact with him, they said they had enough to do looking after their mother. I can't understand the eldest son's response because he seemed to love his dad. Sorry I said briefly.
For approximately 7yrs I have had no contact with any of them, apparantly, I think from someone at the home, when contacted at the time of his entrance to the home they replied as above. There has been no contact from them. I have no contact details. But they are his family. As you know the amount of money is very small, how should I proceed.
Your rating will be excellent, I am very satisfied and grateful for your help and it is just as good as advertised on the web site.
Again I have to get ready and go out - I shall be home from late morning for the rest of the day.
Hello JoshuaI can't see any answer to my question regarding his children. I wasthinking of calling the care home but have since decided that it would be better to call the contact at head office, perhaps no one has thought about it or consider it is my call. I'm really answering my own question so unless I hear differently from you I shall try to contact the head officetomorrow morning. Tomorrow is the day of the creation, it is not until 3.45 so I should find time but I've learnt that the unexpected can occur
My sincere apologies for the delay in responding to you. I regret I was not available over the weekend and I was on a course all of yesterday. I am available all day today save for two short meetings at 9.30 and 4pm. May I continue to assist you with this?
I happy to rate you as excellent. When I joined I understood that for a certain time I could ask questions I think for a month covered by the £50 I paid. But it reads that every time I rate you I must pay more.
Can this be cleared up because I really cannot afford to pay another fee at the moment. I'm sorry because you have helped me considerably and given me the knowledge I needed to answer these big institutions that give one the impression that if you don't know what you're doing and if they make excuses that one will just give up and go away. So sincere thanks for your information.
Glad you had a break you certainly deserve it. Sam's cremation was on Monday and that is the reason that I haven't turned my computer on. I also have a prior commitment Tuesday and again on Thursday that I have to do my best to keep.
At present I'm overwhelmed with papers concerning Sam's pensions, disablement grants, and luckily some papers that if current may be death policies. Then this debt for the funeral balance will not be hanging over my head.
Sincerely, XXXXX XXXXX XXXXXXX
why am I being charged because I made a mistake and rated Joshua too low. As I've explained more than once I had not read the answer when I gave first rating. So now you are charging me £40 because I wanted to give him a correct rating. I've already been robbed of at least £6000 and when you are living on benefits believe me that is a lot of money.
I have received a reminder that I owe the undertakers £2500 approx for the costs of looking after Samuel after his death. The death policy was lapsed by the so called next of kin a Mrs P Holmwood. Please give me the extra £40 back, all I wanted to do was amend my mistake, surely it can't be right to charge me £40 for that.
I feel like it's the final straw, who can I trust, even the people I trusted and promise to help have cheated me. Perhaps you think "what's the fuss, £40 ? why is she worrying about that. I worry about £10 these days.
I am asking again please return the extra £40 you have taken. Have I got have my card details changed to protect myself, surely not . Please reply asap I need to know where I stand.
Oh dear I've lost the reply that I've just written maybe it was sent. I will only say that it was a relief to know I'm not being charged another fee. It's not that I don't value your answers, I'm aware that in the open market I would have probably paid five times as much. So thank you.
Your answers have been invaluable, I can now pursue my case with confidence. So although I dare not rate you again I will tell you that you would rate excellent with no problem at all.
I shall refer any of my friends if they should be so unfortunate as to need it.
Margaret X XXXXXXX