I suppose it is a mixture of both!
In our relationship, I have always earned more money than he did and he was happy to spend my money for his gains (credits etc. although some have gone on my account as he didn’t have enough earnings, credits etc.) As for our travel company, this was based largely on my contacts, which I have accumulated over the years. Other than accounts, he has done very little with regards to running the company. Tour preparations, hotel bookings etc. this was always my part of the deal. Although he went out and got some contacts in, the largest contracts are due to my involvement, and I can prove this in writing if necessary. I have also introduced him back in to the tourism business, trained him to be a guide, to be able to earn a living.
As part of my trade is an independent tourist guide, which means I am away a lot in summer, I left my financial dealings with him and due to his “inaction” he managed to get a CCJ on me.
I re-mortgaged my house (with him as a joint owner now) in order to establish another business, called UTOP Property Development. We re-furbished the property he owned for sale, which we did and bought (together with the Bank and another investor) another property to refurbish and sell. Sadly the financial downturn hit us and I have been paying for this disaster ever since and gotten deeper in to dept.
Just before Christmas we got another investor on board, to help us to finish the project, he decided to leave, without notice (other than an e-mail that he left me and had already moved in with someone else, another e-mail) he is now withdrawing large sums of money from the account, money that does not belong to him.
Our agreement, when we lived together was as follows, my income was to be used to pay for the outgoings in summer and his income (as the period was shorter and he didn’t have that much) was to be used in winter.
With the joint income of our Travel Company (UTOP Travel Ltd.) we would bridge the gap!
I would like to know, if it is possible to get him contractually to agree, that
1.) He will have to maintain my status quo. E.g. keep paying so I wont loose my house.
2.) If I should decide to draw out of all the business ventures I can transfer my holdings both of UTOP Travel and UTOP Property to 3rd parties e.g our investors, as they are dear friends and I do not want to let them down.
I am looking forward to your advice and remain