yes i would like to take them abroad for a week in may half term, there is no residence order just my contact order, which she breaches as and when she feels like, i have no more funds to keep going back to court regarding where i stand so i am at a loss now, there is nothing in the contact order about holidays, as the barrister i had said it wasnt needed ??
every tuesday i have the 4 year old from 12 noon, pick up the 9 year old from school at 3pm, then return them both at 7pm.
i also have them every weekend, one week friday 3pm till saturday 6pm, the next week saturday 3pm till sunday 6pm, i was granted this by the courts as she was just messing me about with contact, i wouldnt see them for weeks, even though this order is in place she just takes them away as and when she wants to and says tough when i complain, saying its what the kids want, all she ever says is 'im their main carer, take me to court you wont win'
nothing was mentioned about holiday contact, in hindsight maybe i should have mentioned it myself but it cost £2000 just to get this far. she bought my 9 year old son a season ticket for a football team without my consent, and insists he has to go to these home games even when it is my set days, this same child also plays football 3 times a week and she insists he does that in my time too or i dont get to see him as she just takes him herself, so i suppose she breaches it regularly ?
Hi I am afraid that if there is no Order dealing with Holiday Contact, and your ex does not agree to your taking the children abroad then booking the holiday would simply be a waste of money - you cannot take them out of the country - or for longer than the specified contact. Unless your order contains the words " shall reside with thexxx mother" then your ex cannot take them out of the country without your permission either. If you wish to change this then I am afraid that your only recourse is to take the matter back to court Now that Legal Aid is no longer available for such cases many people are doing this in person and there is no reason why you should not do so Asking for alternate full weekends plus one evening/night in the week plus half of all the school holidays would not be Unreasonable I am sorry not to give more immediately positive news - please ask if you need further details Clare
im still not sure as of what i can do next ? that was my question
how do i stop her from booking a holiday and taking the children away ? they live with her, i dont understand how i can refuse this for her in the same way she can refuse me ?
thankyou i will go down that route and see what it brings