Faith Elizabeth is 6 months and 4 days old. She was born 13 weeks premature.
I am 50 years old and I work as a volunteer Ambulance Service First Responder. I am pediatric trained so I am well able to care for a preemie.
Faith was taken from hospital at 8 weeks old and placed with foster carers (even though I had come forward as family) because of alcohol abuse (both parents) and domestic violence (both parents). Social Services deemed her to be at risk of neglect. Both parents have a degree of learning difficulties.
Thank you for trying to help me. I am most grateful.
The assessing Social Worker says in her report that because I have a decorated room that was originally going to be for Emma (mum) and Faith that I am in denial as to what the long term affects would be. Emma was still being assessed by the local mother and baby unit at the time and I was originally asked if I would be willing to take them both.
The assessing social worker kept saying 'if' it was long term and 'if' Faith came to you, so I assumed that it would be a short term arrangement. When it was made clear to me that this was not the case I told the SW that I would put my plans to go to University on the back burner, study part time with the Open University and be a full time carer for Faith. I fully accepted that it is a long term placement until adulthood.
Their other objection is that I refused to let them have a free rein in my medical records, going back to birth. I told them to mind their own business and my GP wrote to them saying that I was healthy and that she could see no reason why I should not care for my granddaughter (she knows she is a baby). The SW wanted a full report on my mental health because when she spoke to my ex- husband he said that I am depressed (he has a diploma in amenity horticulture which makes him a reliable referee). The SW says in the report that the divorce, 3 years ago was acrimonious and she has chosen to believe him over my Doctor!
I don't smoke, or drink and I live alone in a 3 bedroom house with my 15 year old LabradorXbeagle.
The Guardian has said that he will push for me to have a full medical, including Haemaglobins (bloods) to prove my health is good.
Both parents have been supportive of my application for their daughter and understand that I will abide by the courts decision over access even if they don't like it. They understand that my priority would be Faith and her safety and well-being.
No one has mentioned that we can get an independent assessment done. How would we do this?
There is a court hearing on march 12th.
I don't know what the Guardian thinks. He was part of a 3 person group who ambushed me at court when I was there for a different matter. He just stood there while the LA barrister fired questions at me about my health. I told them to stop bullying me and that what happened when I was 4 or 14 had absolutely no bearing on my ability to care for my granddaughter and that if the GP who has known me for years says I am fit then they should accept that.
In her letter my GP commented on the fact that I get seasonal asthma caused by silver birch pollen, that I was treated for post menopausal bleeding which was successful (I had an operation to cure it in August last year but was only in hospital for 8 hours) and that I take beta blockers for an irregular heartbeat that is under control. I take one beta blocker each day at bedtime and I have no other medication. I suffered post natal depression after the birth of all three of my children and was treated for that at the time.
I will not release my medical records because once they have left my Drs surgery they are a matter of public record and can be accessed by anyone! It would completely undermine my trust in patient confidentiality and would leave me unable to discuss any future problems, should they arise, with complete honesty. I would be looking over my shoulder wondering who would be demanding my records for the rest of my life. Heaven forbid, I would not feel free to get any treatment necessary.
So, no, I will not be releasing my medical records and they should not expect me to.
After I refused initially the LA agreed a compromise and said that they would accept my GPs letter detailing current treatments but reneged on the deal as soon as they got it.