Thanks for answering.
The windows cost nearly £1200, the chimney £350, the boundary fence another £200, I believe. All of these were in the last two years. My 'housekeeping' was set against my paying the television rental and 'Sky' etc costs at about £120 per month, plus the payment of my council tax. I also undertook, by agreement, the payment of some utility bills as needed, and often paid for basic foodstuffs for us both.
As I cared for my mother full-time over this period, I was unable to work, living on savings and a partial disability pension from my employers.
The house would be around £135,000, I imagine in the current climate, and has been my home for over forty years, having paid housekeeping in similar forms whilst working as a teacher.
If I were to marry, and it is the principle of this issue, the trustees must sell my home from under me, making me homeless, giving me probably £50,000 from the sale after their costs are deducted. Given my disablity, depression, it is unlikely that I would be able to find employment in the current climate.
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The other party is my sister, who has already made representations to the trustees complaining about the will, which is strange as it was she who organised the completion of it and participated in the meetings to create it, I understand.
Yes, that's how it's worded in the will, along with the statement; "...and does not live with anyone as her husband...". I cannot believe that this is what my mother would wish, and have independent friends who are prepared t testify that she felt that she was holding me back and ruining my life. (Both of these are untrue, as I willingly fulfilled the role of carer.
I've looked on RightMove and the cheapest singled-bedroomed house in this area is £110,000. Obviously I have no idea of the condition of the property.
The furnishings are left to me, although the only item of value will be the chair I had bought on mum's behalf whilst she was in hospital, there will probably be no monies after all bills are settled. Oh, and I inherit the upkeep of the family pets!
I'm 53, hence the limited opportunities to earn after such a long break and the diagnosis of depression going back many years. I did work through it for a long time, but a specific event involving a criminal against whom I have a court injunction and substantial monies due by way of damages for injury, overwhelmed the defences as they existed. My last job, as a teacher, coincided with my mother requiring greater support, hence the role of carer. She sought to repay me in this wa, and I know that she would not have agreed to such a clause if she had been fully aware of the implications - either that or she didn't think I would ever meet someone! I guess that not only have I lost my closest friend, but also have become redundant at the same time.
Hi, sorry for the delay.
My sister lives with her husband in a 3/4 bedroom detached house in the outskirts of a nearby town. They have no children. She is a line manager in the local housing association and he is receiving a pension for a full-term served in the RAF, whilst working in the same job at the airbase as a civilian. - if that helps at all.
My mother often told people that in lieu of my 'caring' she wanted me looked after she died. Two of our closest friends reassured me that she had said this to them on numerous occasions, especially whilst I was not in the room for whatever reason.
It may be a mute point, but they also said that she wished I found someone and that she felt she was responsible for limiting my life. This 'limit' i willing accepted and only wish I could still.