Yes it was reported by the affected partner in order to stop the violence.but she is worried about losing her home as a consequence. Her husband owns the property she lives in. She has a property in her own name at the other end of the country. They face losing both. They have both gone insolvent due to several civilian court cases. They will not get another mortgage
No the first time she reported the violence she was poverty stricken due to the court cases. The partner and her daughter were both seriously mentally ill. There was a clash and between them she called the police. As a consequence she lost her children who she could no longer afford to feed and because she needed enhanced disclosure she also lost her two jobs but managed to keep the third. All relied on enhanced disclosure. There was an investigation, full child protection due to domestic violence.and assault. They fought together as a family won the cases eg employment tribunal, medical claim and reunited the family when the money came through. Both solicitors in the domestic violence situation worked together to mediate with the family. It worked.
In the initial case several years back about 4 times. The husband was diagnosed with adjustment disorder and the daughter with dissociative disorder. The daughter was kept in care for much longer than her sons to avoid family clashes. Social services returned her to the family after she became increasingly unhappy in foster care. This time only once. The assault was on the affected partner and the son came in after and floored the father and both swiftly exited the room.. living with mental illness is tough as people can become violent much more quickly. It was sorted within minutes and they called the police who came as arrested the step father this week.
Very good so far
Four in the first case several years ago and one this past week. It was frustrating that they could not directly help a family in distress. The lack of money and long term stress led to frequent arguments. With the mental illness there has been more incidents that have not been reported. Clashes tend to go with the territory. The worry is that if you reach out for help it tends to backfire, the violence in the past week was completely unnacceptable she immediately put a stop to the behaviour.
In the first instance, several years back there was four phone calls to 999 as we were fighting domestic violence which the police responded to. So I imagine that would be four separate incidents. We were told to report any escalation in order to stop the violence from occurring again. This time there was one phone made after she received repeated blows to her face in one incident this time. She immediately took action to protect herself and the children.
Fri 3rd May 2014 - three days ago. She had two blows to the forehead which have almost settled and a deep bruise that is still very evident on her right eyelid
Yes she did
She is trying to protect both family homes. The children are very attached to the house up North which is her home in Scotland but two of her children are about to take Alevels and Olevels. They are settled in England this is not the time to move. Her youngest son came in the bedroom after hearing the commotion and wrestled his step dad to the floor.the step dad was fall over drunk, paranoid and verbally and sexually abusive. The youngest son has been checked out at the local hospital to make sure he has no injuries. He did have slight muscle bruising in his eye. The elder two children can have contact with the stepdad via text as they did not witness the incident. Today a police officer came to the house with the stepfather to allow him to pick up some things ready for work tomorriow. I suppose the question is what should she do to protect herself as much as possible. She is happy to cooperate with the police but would also like to protect their assets as much as possible. Should she be a witness against him or is that going to make matters even worse for her than they already are. The youngest son has said to the police he would be a witness in court if he had to. The police are suggesting to the victim that this time she should prosecute, last time their was no further action. Not assisting in the court case may look like she is uncooperative and therefore not interested in protecting her children from a crime that needs prosecution but in doing so she risks losing eveything that theyhave built up together over the years. The property that was in a very poor state of repair is finally beginning to take shape. Working harmoniously together may stop the properties from being lost completely. Child protection is still the top priority. The children are safe.
I suppose she is happy to go through with the case if necessary but is worried about the impact on the family homes. Should she go to court? Will that look better on her part or is it in the end going to be more detrimental than helpful. She helps convict her husband, he loses his job. the mortgage cannot be paid, the house is repossessed, he will not get on the property ladder again due to his age and financial status. As yet there has been no allegation of anything but the youngest son intervened at the end of the assault so perhaps they will put some charge through. If there is I imagine her husband who has now been bailed should have that information.
As yet she hasn't received any information to be able to make a decision either way.
She is happy to cooperate with the police. Violence is wrong. She is worried about the impact this has on both properties. The question as yet is - if she goes ahead with the police case will that negatively or positively affect her situation. She is trying to protect her children but also her assets.
She is not alleging anything regarding the assault but one of her children was there during the assault and the police would like him to testify in court. The police also want her to testify in court so they can bring a conviction this time. If the conviction is sucessful how best can she protect their assets?
Rather than losing this house can she do anything to protect the family from losing 1 or 2 properties.
At present she is gathering information. This is the emotional reaction this deals with her feelings- her husband has done wrong and he has to face the consequences of his actions this will impact on him and his family. Let the court decide and the consequences will take their natural course. She does not wish necessarily to be involved in unpicking her life.
Her husband has done wrong and the first priority is that she needed to protect herself and her children. She was the one who reported the incident to the police. By reporting the incident to the police she has single handedly destroyed everything that she had fought for over the years, getting on the property ladder building up, repairing and improving the properties. Now she can take an active part in unpicking everything that they built up together, what better way to end the whole thing than testifying into your own destruction. The final grand slam.. What is the point of reporting this to the police if all they do is unpick your life further. She didn't make a wise decision because they don't look at it from the hopes, dreams and aspirations of the vulnerable they just want a conviction the wife and kids can go stuff themselves.
Sorry it just makes me angry that law appears to approach complex cases with the finesse of bludgeoning axe. Whatever we do I guess we are screwwed either way. Sorry emotional rant over. Why should we be attached to our home anyway?
Just one thing thank you. You have been amazing
.In this case there is very little to do with retribution. The family has always worked together despite significant trauma and significant issues with mental illness.. In emergency situations you can't weigh up all the pro and cons of whether it is feasible to call the police. You have to react. Not to react in times like these would lead to a conviction of neglect or a murder scene. What I suppose I would be campaigning for that in these kind of cases we take a holistic approach.even if the police has been called that instead of going down the prosecution route you are still able to able to have the option of working together towards mediation.
In the last case, that this family went through several years back before the recent case, mediation worked where police where looking for a conviction,. the vulnerable person often knows the situation intimately.
The frustrations the last time were -
You spend thousands and thousands of pounds into convicting dysfunctional families but you spend very little on the support they desperately want. Support with housing, finance queries, psychological help, mediation. For instance in this case, the mother wants help to protect herself and her children. She wasn't asking for a conviction. If the man is banned from the house that is fine but convicting him also convict herself and the children to execution as well. I'm not condoning crime here, some crimes will need law to keep things in check. I am merely suggesting we should look proactively towards mediation even after the police have been called. Little wonder two die every week in instances related to domestic violence. Pointless reaching out to the police if they are going to destroy you in the process. Likewise with forced adoption no point reaching out to a social worker when forced adoption is the policy, countries with forced adoption have been found to have higher rates of death and abuse.. England of course being one of them. So by the police taking a heavy handed approach they get some of the nasties locked up but the rest would rather take our chances. The floodgates of police enquiry have been opened here but I am passionate about campaigning for change, protecting the vulnerable rather than subjecting the vulnerable to policies and procedures that makes there fate worse than ever. In the last case the policy for risk assessments were changed because the family were passionate about the rights of the child who was suffering from a mental illness. Unless the vulnerable speak out nothing will change. i want to campaign in this case. I want to defend the needs of all concerned. Which way can I campaign for a more positive approach to hard core policing, if I went to court how could I best present a case that encompasses this? How could I get the police to listen to me, how best should i present my case. Who would be the best campaign groups to approach in this type of case? Thank you for your hard work It has been much appreciated.
Sorry, I will stop I promise but the family law courts in Britain are pretty terrifying. They do not appear to look at the long term consequences of those involved.and the significant emotional harm that they cause to all who attend. I suppose the only thing to do in this sort of case is to campaign to the European court of human rights. It appears they listen in a slightly different way than family law courts though I know the process is slowly changing, it is a matter of being able to steer correctly through the quagmire. Thanks anyway.. Some cases lost in Britain are won over there. Its just frustrating that they are happy to spend £10.000 on a report to destroy a family but they can't spend £10,000 on rebuilding a family. I wonder why that is. It seems a dreadful waste of money/. Sorry I'ss stop there before you shut down!