I would like to get another opinion: My husband left the family home last August. He has submitted a petition for divorce which I've accepted, but he has not yet submitted it to the court for a decree nisi. We have given him a deadline after which we will submit our own petition. After initially paying three months towards our family outgoings my husband has now withdrawn all financial support. My solicitor has said the costs of taking him to court to make him contribute are not worth what we would get out of it. However, the discrepency in our salaries is large - he earns 75k whe I earn 45k and I am paying all the house maintenace costs. I've put the mortgage on hold with the permission of the mortgage lenders. My solicitor has also said that I am not entitled to ask for maintenance for my son who is 21. But he is still in full time education and is still living with me. Should i push my solicitor harder to demand some kind of interim support for us both while we negotiate divorce or is it really not worth it?I am concerned that my solicitor is not proactive enough. My husband is an aggressive, controlling person and needs a firm hand. He is already being very awkward about disclosing finances.
My salary is £2300 pcm, my husband's salary is £4200 pcm and the shortfall in outgoings is about £1200 pcm.
I've asked my Building Society to put the mortgage on hold (£1450 pcm) until March 2015 so I'm coping with the shortfall.
My husband is not making any contribution to the household insurance etc etc although his personal effects and office contents are still in the house.
My main concern is that my husband is going to drag his feet about financial disclosure...he's already sent through incomplete bank statements.
Thanks for this. Two follow up questions:
What would constitute a 'substantial difference' in incomes?
As a University professor, my husband earns consultancy money on top of his income which he has always refused to add to the household pot. I am not sure how much it is per annum. How do I find this out?
I'm sure you've been asked this numerous times before:
is there any way of finding out about finances or income not declared?
I can identify where the figures don't add up. Money is leaving his personal account for work expenses - large hotel bills on consultancy trips - which are not being paid back in. He would normally have claimed for these funds and they would have reappeared in his personal account. This suggests the refund going into another account that he has not declared. Is there any way I can found out what other accounts he has in addition to those disclosed?