Hello, 3 weeks ago my boyfriend and i had an argument at a rugby match in the street. i was very intoxicated and started the argument. he (apparently) pushed me and i fell to the ground. 3 girls (who we do not know) alerted the police and shouted that he had pushed me over. the next thing he was being carted off into a police van and arrested. i told them and they have it documented at the scene that i didn't want any of this. since then he has been released on bail but is under investigation for assault. i am not allowed any contact with him. i have been down to the police station and reiterated this is ridiculous and that i dont want anything to happen and explained how he pushed me but not very hard and to just make me leave him alone and that i fell over mainly de to intoxication. it was just a complete accident. they say there will be an outcome on 20th june and i have to wait until then. i dont know what to do as if i am saying i don't want there to be a case. how can it go ahead? i want to see him and its ruining our relationship, i am ill with worry and cannot get on with my life. the police are not telling me anything. they advised me not to do a statement as this would give CPS evidence to use in court. i am not being kept up to date with the case and i don't want the case t be going ahead. It is very unfair and i do not understand how after a silly drunken argument they can go about trying to ruin my life and my boyfriends. What can i do? What are the possible outcomes If i get a solicitor is there something i can do?
Thank you. This is the problem. I was very drunk and don't really remember the incident completley. But the 3 strangers shouted the police over and i was on the floor and so i must have said yeah he pushed me but i even explained at scene that it was an accident and he hadn't meant to push me over which they say is documented that i dodnt want anything to be done and my views are very understood from the outset. they arrested him because these girls notified the police who were 10metres away and because it was a rugby match they had zero tolerance for fighting or any form of violence.
I'm not too sure. Apparently they might have made a statement which is why they are now being classed as witnesses in the case. I'm not sure if at the scene i confirmed or not that he pushed me. They wont tell me. I was on the floor and the police told me not to get up as i had been pushed over?
The police officer dealing with the case spoke to me after he was arrested and i confirmed on the phone that i dont want anything to happen and since have been down the police station and he advised that regardless with what i said they have to investigate due to a new domestic violence law? Which is when he advised me not to do a statement as he said even by me saying he touched me slightly would give them more evidence to prosecute even if it was an accidental push. so advised it was best for me not say anything adn i cant write a statement to say he did not push me as thy are reviewing cctv so if that shows he pushed me it will make it worse?
Is there no way I can get a solicitor and fight this? It was a tiny push and not to harm me. Should they be keeping me informed as I have been reading up a bit and it says that as i am classed as a 'victim' i need to be updated with the case?
Is there really nothing i can do now to fight this? i just feel i have no idea what is going on and it seems ridiculous when this is supppsedly about me?
So just to clarify. I cannot stop them investigating either? I read that in if the person the alleged assault has happened to doesn't want to support the prosecution then they have to review whether to go ahead with the case and weigh it up against public interest.
Is there no way i can make a statement to stop the investigation?