Thank you. A contact order was made in the family court in september last year stating his dad to see him on Mondays and Thursdays from 6.30 to 8.30pm and on Saturdays and Sundays, engaging with our son's sport and music activities which are mainly at weekends. He would not obey the court order despite the contact order being made according to his request, except that he could not be with our son alone. He sees this as a challenge to his authority and control over his son and his right as a father. He also sees this as a result of conflict between me and him, as I got stronger I would not allow him to operate as he wished because this was troublesome. he believes my son would do what I say and i should force him to see him alone. Our son is a very intelligent 14 year old and does not wish to see his dad alone.
Following his attempts to force him to come with him alone from school, which my son found distressing and was always worried, I applied for a prohibtion step order. The contact order was changed. My son have to ask when and how he wants to see his dad alone when he feels he can, and his dad can contact him by email once a week. A No order order was given with no order principle with respect to the prohibitive step order, because his dad promised in court not to go to the school and cause him anymore problems and the court sees this to be in best interest of our son. In the conclusion of the court's findings, it asked us to work together to present a united front to enable reasonable contact and prevent risk of emotional harm. It is a mess because he has managed to fool the court and got what he wanted in a clever way.
Our family eventually broke down after long years of physical and emotional abuse towards me and my son. He was particularly hostile to me in all matters relating to our son's needs for education and pursuing his interests in sports and music. We lived like prisoners under his control. I do not have to influence my son. it was his decision not to see him alone.
His dad made the application for contact because he was under pressure from his family to prove his innocience and that his son is not at risk with him alone. He is not interested in seeing my son.He is now angry with him thta he spoke out to caffcas and spoilt his reputation. The order as it satands means he gets what he wants regardless how it effects our son. He has threatened to go back to school as he believes the step order was thrown out. He is not thinking of whats best for our son, but only whats best for himself.
My son wants to see him but not alone. He knows his dad would not respond positively.
His dad is an extremely difficult person, dictatorial and very controlling. He believes no one tells him what to do. he belives that the court cannot do anything breaching the order in place.
Hope this backgroud help. The situation is complicated because we are dealing with someone very complicated. His dad will only do what he has to do. Can specific orders help and which ones under this situation?