Thank you Nicola,
I will wait.
The children are 6, 8 and 11.
In short - The reasons are fear/stress at work - I run my own business, not communicating these worries which build up and are expressed in arguments. I'm starting counselling tomorrow to help manage these anxieties with release mechanisms. These have not been shared with my wife - she has Addissons which affects her Adrenal glands and ability to cope with stressful situations which is why I had not shared my worries . I now know this was wrong. My wife has issues which she also needs to deal with. Her older brother is helping both of us in a very positive way and it gives me some hope we can find a resolution with time and marriage guidance - but we are not at that stage right now.
He may put me up for a short while after the place I'm in with other friends is unavailable at the end of the month and is seeing my wife tonight to try and establish access to the office inside the house for me.
If you need more info let me know.
Yes the office is downstairs towards the back of the house and separated by the utility area. I can close the door and no one would know anyone was in there.
We also have a spare bedroom (4 in total) in the roof which is unoccupied.
I should add we are not in a financial position where two house can be run - hence my previous comment about the spare room and a potential situation where I may need to use it?
I now understand the position regarding work - as she teaches this could be agreed to only the times when she is not there?
What is my position in respect to living in the spare bedroom or is this as you say - entitled to do so unless there is an order preventing me from doing so?