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My 16 yr old son is unruly and does not respond to request.

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My 16 yr old son is unruly and does not respond to request. He is often disruptive always unwilling to follow any basic rules or standards of behaviour
He stays out all day and night and is suspected of taking drugs.
Recently he has sold some possessions and now taken his younger brothers clothes and games - cannot be certain if for use or sale.

What can I do?
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Law
Expert:  Clare replied 3 years ago.
Hi
Thank you for your question.
My name is Clare
I will do my best to help you but I need some further information first.
Do you and your wife agree that you wish to exclude him from the house?
is he actually in any form of education?
Clare
Customer: replied 3 years ago.
We agree and he has finished goes exams and was planning to go on to 6th form
Expert:  Clare replied 3 years ago.
Hi
Have you sought any help on the drugs issue?
Clare
Customer: replied 3 years ago.
We had to call police this morning as he climbed on the roof and threatened to jump
We were asked by police if we wanted him to stay and responded no.
They helped him pack a bag and asked him to leave

Can you give me advice
Expert:  Clare replied 3 years ago.
HI
The first point is that you and your wife need to be in complete agreement about the way forward.
It is probably best to change the locks at this stage incase he has retained a key - and you must make it clear to the other children that they are not to let their brother into the house in any circumstances.
Social Services may well get involved and they will yell you that you have no choice but to let your son back - this is NOT true
You remain financially responsible for him but you do NOT have to let him return
This will be very hard on all of you but you do have to be realistic about your position.
YOu can of course still look at what help is out there with regard to CAHMS and drug programmes - but you do NOT have to let him back in
Please ask if you need further details
Clare
Customer: replied 3 years ago.
Thank you
Expert:  Clare replied 3 years ago.
Hi
You are welcome - i hope things go as well as they can
Clare

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