Hi Jo. I was arrested on Friday evening after a fight with my girlfriend. I was released on bail from the police station pending further invetigation into a common assault charge.
Hi Jo, Are you still there ?
Sorry. I had visitors and wasn't able to speak.
What I obviously need to know is what the likely outcome might be ?
My bail conditions on Friday were to not contact her or her friend (witnness) via any means. I was told to inform the police if she contacted me (which she did early yesterday morning via phone call). I mean for goodness sake... we live together so how am I not going to speak to her for almost 4 weeks until I have to return to the police station ? She has clothes at my house, everything...
So I have spoken to her even though I am not supposed to be. Which also worries me.
She says she doesn't want the matter to go any further and will call the police tomorrow to tell them this. And her witness as well. I believe she will definitely do this.
But I worry that the police or CPS might decide to take the issue further even if she says she doesn't want to.
As an aside, we ended up fighting and I slapped her purely because she became hysterical, went completely mad and tried to hit me over the head with a heavy stone plant pot. I defended myself and slapped her to stop her from attacking me. She has admitted to the police that she attacked me with the stone plant pot, and told them that she lost her temper which started the whole thing. But I didn't admit to the police that I struck her because I was worried about admitting I had basically assaulted someone, even thoough if she had hit me over the head with the stone plant pot she could have seriously injured or even killed me.
I answered the phone to her. and have exchanged texts with her. She has been in this situation before, and told me the fought with her ex boyfriend and father of her son. And she also said she harmed herself in order to make it look like he had hurt her.
Well... I did hit her a couple of times around the back of the head with my hand, but purely to try to knock her out of her stride, so to speak. There was no blood drawn, I think she had a small bump on her head. She was doing her level best to smash a stone plant pot over my head. Which she has admitted to the police. So am I not allowed to at least defend myself and try to disable someone who is effectively trying to do me some serious harm ?
In hindsight, I do think I should have walked away from this girl a long time ago. I feel sure she has some sort of problem mentally, as she has told me she ended up splitting with the previous boyfriend / father of her son, largely because she cannot tolerate small children / babies and the screaming. I think at one stage she tried to harm the child. Smother it or something. I read it in some documentation that was at her flat whilst she was out one evening.
I told the police I didn't punch her. She and her witness friend say I did. But they both stated that she started to try to attack me first, and that she did attack me with the stone pot with the intention of hitting me over the head with it.
She has attended counseling before apparently and has said to me on a couple of occasions she doesn't know why she can't control her moods and temper. She also has a problem with moods. She will get, for want of better words, p**sed off about the slightest thing, with no warning, and then I am told I must not talk to her or speak to her or even ask her why she was upset - she will talk to me about it when she is ready. But she rarely does. Yet she will talk to other people in the room or on the phone perfectly normally, then carry on not speaking to me. Then she tells me she has to put on an act with those people because they are not close to her, but because I am close to her I understand her and should know that I should just leave her alone when she is in a bad mood - which is often. Eventually she sometimes will ask me to massage her feet or something as a show of apology.
She is from Thailand by the way - something that I also don't know is a factor.
Sorry for the psycho-analysis. I know I'm rambling and it's not relevant.
Hi Jo, are you still there ?
Jo ? Are you there ?
I didn't admit to striking her. She says she will tell the police she doesn't want to support a prosecution tomorrow and advise them that she doesn't want the issue to go to court.
I understand I need to step away from this woman. I realise that now. What could the likely outcome be ? I've never even been near a police station in my life before, and certainly never to court.
Could I end up with a prison sentence for this ?
What would you think I would receive as punishment Jo ?
What about after she says she doesn't want to take the matter any further ? Will it likely be dropped ?