Thank you for your reply when we split up we always said weekends and or holidays would be my time with our son but since she got a new partner (who I have no issue with) and started college she started putting more hurdles in the way such as taking him to church on a sunday for 2 hours when she never went to church before in her life. Basically I think it boils down to now that she has to actually get off her arse and go to college she isn't spending 24 hours a day with him and thinks my new partner is going to be his mother figure even though my partner has told her she just wants to be his friend (my partner has a little girl a few months older than my son) as I say we are mostly on good terms even to the point I do diy for her when I go to pick up my boy but she really cant see things from anything but her own point of view saying its in his best interests for me to have alone time with my son.
thank you for your reply ive been working and not had a chance to read it. things have deteriorated rapidly and it now looks like court is my only option would her mental health issues and recent very public hissy fit at an ITV studio where she insisted that I take my son and leave (we were in Manchester and I travelled down alone) because she would do "anything" for that show not to be aired producers and the aftercare team were so concerned for her welfare they wanted to call social sevices but she still would not leave I eventually left the situation to go see my son in the crèche as he was tired alone and surrounded by strangers. would I have enough of a case to go to social services and gain custody of my son her behaviour is erratic and harmful but only to herself and me for now. she has had affairs in her flat while my son was in bed and left him at her parents house so she could go and have casual sex with strangers her dad is basically an alcoholic who gets aggressive and has shouted at my son before over minor incidents and my ex has been put on the at risk register as he has pinned her to the sofa and choked her for disagreeing with something he said. she has ocd and will not let him play with pens pencils or chalk at her house incase he makes a mess even though at his last health visit he was marked as poor for his pincer grip. also he has problems with constipation which has held him back from toilet training as he is scared to go because of the pain we went to a consultant who told us the course of action which was medication which he has to take constantly but as soon as my son goes she stops giving him his medicine or just says oh he wont take it for me.