Decree nisi has been granted.
I am living in the FMH with our two children and am their main carer. He sees them once a week and is reluctant to increase that care.
He is going to be paying minimal child maintenance and had agreed to handing over the equity in the FMH in order than I would stay here and take over the mortgage.
My solicitor insisted on a nominal maintenance charge, he refused. We suggested it again with a termed order until my youngest is 13 or that we use an arbitrator to make the decision.
Since we sent that letter, his solicitor sent him a draft letter to approve and he has refused to respond - not even contacting his solicitor after her leaving daily messages.
I need a letter to be signed before I get my remortgage offer, saying that he will have no future interest in the property - since the financial settlement has not yet been sealed at court.
There is the threat of him becoming bankrupt after some poor financial decisions he has made since we separated - my name is ***** ***** in any of them. There is currently one interim charging order against our house with the hearing set for October so we were all working towards sealing the financial order by then so that the house is ring fenced but he is refusing to co operate.
He has told me he has received a bankruptcy petition a week ago, but neither me or his solicitor has seen this and thus far nothing is showing on the insolvencies register or the Land charges register.
Against the advice of my solicitor but in order to close things, he wants me to agree to remove the nominal maintenance order and only when that and the childrens access arrangements are agreed and filed at court, will he sign the letter for the remortgage (By which point the order will be sufficient anyway), but there is very real threat of bankruptcy coming up first.
I feel bullied in to doing something that isn't in my best interests just to get the house secured which is in my best interests. However, i know that he will continue with this line of attack in his involvement with the children. He claims he wants to see them, but refuses to have them in any holidays or for anything outside of his 24hr period from Sat eve to Sun eve.
I have requested that he put his requests in writing via his solicitor but he says I need to do it.
I believe his solicitor has possibly advised that the nominal maintenance options we suggested were reasonable, but since this doesn't suit his requirements, he is now disengaged.
Similarly the same was the case when we went to mediation. He refused to go after the second time because it wasn't getting the results he wanted.
Can he really dictate so much, and yet still claim parental responsibility and where we live etc?