I am not understanding our question as to why I believe the court should change the order?
I am not willing for the children to travel to South Africa on a plane on unaccompanied for the following reasons:-
The mother has in recent conversations told the children they need to decide where they want to live. With her in South Africa or with me in the UK.
The mother has not given me a fixed address for where to send the children and then later sent a lawyers letter stating if I do not abide to the order she will take legal action.
The mother has not purchased tickets since 2010 when asked to do so and then left me with having to make arrangements for child care over the times they were meant to be with her and deal with the children being upset and disappointed.
The mother changes contact arrangements as and when she pleases.
On their first trip to South Africa the mother said she was going to keep the boy in South Africa because she was having ,medical checks done on him and she was only going to send the girl on her own. This was after they had stayed in South Africa for a period of five weeks.
I have tried to make the order work but with all the constant changes and with a mother that makes contact and then disappears again it is causing emotional damage to the children.
I am not trying to stop contact with the mother but I am not willing that my children to suffer the stress of travelling on a 11 hour flight alone and not know if they'll be coming back.
The reason I want to change the order is because it's not being kept to and I'd rather the mother comes here to see the children where I know they are safe.