Cafcass have recommended exactly what my son has asked for the children every other week, share school holidays, telephone calls Monday Wednesday and Friday', he picks the children up from school on Friday, takes them back to her mother's on Sunday, they are aware that the children are always crying and upset on Sunday's when the children go back because they want to live with their father, they do not want to live with their mother, this she has denied but she never picks them up from her mother usually until Monday night from school, her mother also wants to change this arrangement to take (some of the pressure off her) bearing in mind the traffic on the M25 can be very unpredictable on Sunday's and he has returned sometimes at 5pm instead of 4.30pm. He has had the children for 3 weeks during the summer holiday took them to a caravan holiday for a week, and will probably have them during half term in October. The final hearing is October 16th, but she has already changed these arrangements on her statement to the court, because she now wants the children dropped off at the end of her road, (the boyfriend has already threatened to beat up my son, and has said by txt he will set fire to their flat) she has already disconnected the email she let the children use to speak to their father, and has terminated all ways and means of my son trying to contact them by e mail, skyp etc..he has never been given an emergency number in case anything happened to the children he had no means of contacting her. What sort of a mother is this who uses her son's name to obtain loans, I think my son would be happy with the arrangements he has made, but I think over the past few months since he started court proceedings she is beginning to show how nasty she really is mean, jealous and I think he would like to have the children permanently either full custody or joint custody. Cafcass interviewed both the children and the results of these are very sad indeed as the girl of 9 wants to be loyal to her mother, but is torn between her father and mother, but the boy of 5 (6) today does not want ever to go home and live with his mum and her boyfriend. The boyfriend has a police record for assault on his wife and two police officers, and a drink problem but Cafcass wrote in their report that this was not a threat. My son did have a breakdown, and did start to drink, but all of the reports that were ordered by her solicitors, from DIAS, the GP and Probation (he was caught drink driving) have come back glowing he has over the past 18 months got his life back. Her statement to the Court is very damaging and nothing about her boyfriend and his problems and her problems with her depression she has had for years, and the times my son took the children back to the house only to find she is nowhere to be found taken them back to their flat in Cobham from Croydon only to have the police turn up on the doorstep she has accused him of taking them. Everytime anything goes wrong for her, she calls the police, and not once has social services ever been called. He is beginning to feel that the court are only going to listen to her and he is about to lose everything, she already lives in the house, gets all the benefits, and is trying her best to damage him, he is about to give up.