hi Claire they separated a year ago but remaind amicable about visiting his daughter as and when .its only since he has moved in with the new girlfriend 4weeks ago that he has become unreasonable.his daughter dosent want to meet the new girlfriend and hes trying to put her in a situation she is very unhappy with.she is a very intelligent girl with a mind of her own.hope that helps .
hi Claire ,shes not happy with the fact that her dad now lives with his girlfriend and her child.hes not been with this girlfriend a year he has had others as well.this girl is just the result of them to cheating and lying .my daughter and granddaughter are having to move home because of this as he is selling the house.so there is a lot of upheaval for them.they need to be settled in a new home which they haven't even got yet.he has moved in with the girl only round the corner from where they live and she wont even go to the shop with her mum incase she sees him with her and her child.the girl in question knows my daughter and granddaughter and they were both prepared to still go ahead with there relationship.my daughter was with her childs father for 16yrs.so its been a very upsetting time for them both.
hi Claire just Wednesdays and Saturdays .he normally takes her to his mums house which is also local.but now hes refusing.when they were together as a family that was probably the same amount of time they had together due to work commitments ect.he is off work at the moment and has been for 6months due to an ongoing health problem.hence demanding more time
hi ,they are having to move because the father dosent want to pay the mortgage for them to stay he has a loan secured on the house and he will only pay until its sold so he can settle his debts.my daughter cant afford to pay on her own,so the will rent something affordable.there should be some money left from the house sale for my daughter which the father has agreed she can have as he had the loan for his own benefit. thankyou Julie
hi Claire the property is up for sale at £115 -£120000there is £13.000 owing on the loan and £84 000 mortgage.un fortunately my daughter wouldn't get a mortgage on her own.the property is in joint names.also she would like to move closer to where her child goes to school.my granddaughter was fortunate to get a part scholarship for private education she is very clever.and the shool is 6miles from where they live now.as you can imagine Claire my daughter dosent want all of this to start to get in the way of her daughters education.
hi clare he used the loan for his own personal use my daughter wasn't aware he had a loan at first.he just spent it all on him self holidays with his friends cars ect.
hi Claire he wouldn't have the money to pay off the loan.and hes wanting the house sold and also she dosent want to live there herself after he has done to them both .they need a fresh start.
I think we have swayed off the original question clare .my daughter dosent want to live there .he only lives down the road as I explained and she dosent want to see him on a daily basis.the main concern is his demands on his child that are unreasonable.
thankyou Claire but its a little more complicated thant that.he shows no interest in his daughters education he attends nothing ie sports day harvest festival parents evening ect if it involves having to be there with my daughter who has done nothing wrong.he cannot show his daughter that he can even engage with her mother.he even the other day wanted to take his daughter who was off school poorly to look at puppies he was going to buy for his new family.he didn't even offer to sit with her because the puppies were more important to him and he also said to her he dosent want to go see her in her own home anymore.i wouldn't call that my daughter putting her hurt on to their daughter.and its all been since he has been with the new partner.he has only been living with her since September,and being in a relationship since april.i don't think that is enough time and that is all that is being asked .