Thank you Clare. The mother owns the house which is in her name though the father insists he should benefit from half of the value and refuses to negotiate on any point until she agrees to that which her lawyer has said she must not do. There is also a flat she owns outright with a buy to let mortgage and this purchase predates the relationship.She is " house rich and cash poor",
The mother wants her partner to continue seeing the daughter and to live sufficiently close to continue taking her to school if that is possible ( that is for purely practical reasons). He insists he will keep their car and a car is the only way to get the daughter to school.He seems to wants to see his daughter more or less as he pleases and his starting point which he says is nonnegotiable is for split weekends,
Thank you Clare, They are not married but began living together soon before their daughter was born in October 2004. I am sure he has made no financial contribution to the property nor to the structure of the property, His name is ***** ***** daughter's birth certificate as the father.
What he is seeking at the moment whilst he is still around and has no other home ( he does have a divorced girlfriend who has a son) is to set her agendas at weekends entirely independently of the mother yet require her to be around, to cook etc. like a live in housekeeper!
I hope this helps, francis
Hi, she was advised to give him notice to leave but delayed doing so until after her birthday party this past Friday. I know she finds difficulty doing this partly because she fears about his reaction, understandable perhaps after the DV of August, He says he has not loved her for a long time and both accept they have had no intimacy for at least 6 years, Although both are capable of earning well ( he is a solicitor but not active though I know he has an up to date certificate) but neither come anywhere close to their earnings potential and there is little money between them and many unpaid bills, court summonses etc. It is so sad to watch their lives crumble.Anyway, access is what my question to you is about and the source of present acrimonious dispute. She does not see him as a suitable person to be having any independence with his daughter, Hope this is not overmuch ramble!
I have asked her that this morning with no very useful response. I think this is because she just cannot get her mind around losing control of her daughter though I have explained that a father who she admits is very fond of his daughter ( even though we know he has lied to het about his whereabouts when he has been with his lady friend rather than with her) presumably can assert rights to access too. It is really on this aspect that I am seeking guidance, knowing with friends that access can an area for hot diputes. Are there any guidance points you might give based on your experience ? Thank you,
Thank you. This will be most helpful. He does not have other accommodation and for financial reasons will have to rely on staying with fronds etc. In a small house it will be difficult to arrange days on his own with the daughter as he wants his partner out of the way when this happens or perhaps to take his daughter along to his girl friend and her son, How would this be viewed? The mother is "dead" against it, I am off for over 2 weeks but will have my Ipad if there any other follow up thoughts. The websites look very useful though in current circumstances mediation seems unlikely though the lawyer believes it is the right thing to do especially as funds are so limited. Once again many thanks Clare.