On my side I would say it is down to the depression I have suffered since the death of my mother. One of my brothers has also been horrible to the other one (and myself) we no longer talk to him. As regards ***** ***** brother , the middle one , I believe he has alienated us because it suits his purpose to stay on in my mother's house. He has now got divorced , got himself a new girlfriend (who i have never met) moved her into the house , got her pregnant and had a baby. He has been aggressive and intimidating to my younger brother (He is also a world-class karate champion) He has been taking advantage of my mother's wish that my youngest brother should continue to have somewhere to stay for a fair while after her death. The middle brother lived in America before my mother's death - it was just my mother and my youngest brother in the house before that. My youngest brother has now been squeezed out of the house generally and he is pretty much having to live in one room. The situation has become untenable to the point they can no longer acknowledge each others presence , let alone talk. On my youngest brothers side (and mine!) I would say we were hoping everything would be dealt with amicably , which it hasn't , and I believe he is now looking to me , as the oldest , to rectify the situation.
Yes. But initially the mortgage was just routinely being paid from the funds she had left. My brothers merely waited for the cash to run out before they decided to start putting money into the account to pay the direct debits for the mortgage and insurance etc.