Hi Clare many thanks for responding. The child is 2 and a half years old, the father currently sees him twice a week, once for 4 hours and the second for 6 hours. he was charged in march for assault, and prior to that early last year. he has attempted suicide on 3 occasions, the last being August last year.
We have been to court over the last 10 months, at the last hearing the court were going to award over night stays, this was not acceptable so has been taken to a final hearing.
we feel that despite the history, the court appears to have totally disregarded my step daughters concerns and the child's welfare.
we need to stop him taking the child overnight at least until he has proven himself. one thing I did not mention is he has another child with his current partner who is three months old, this child was put on the child at risk register before birth and is still on the list to be reviewed in May.
Our question to the court is if his unborn child was on the risk register why is our grandchild not protected, and is the Judge making decisions to appease a new law/policy.
I understand this is a complicated case and you only have a small amount of information, but there must be some way that we can ensure our grandchild is safe and not put in a position that we may regret.
Social services have advised that if his baby is considered safe, and is still on the at risk register but being monitored then our grandchild is considered to be ok and its acceptable for him to stay overnight. Our concern is who is monitoring our grandchild.
We have had a CAFCASS report, to support this the court ordered him to produce his police, mental and medical records for them to review, unfortunately the CAFCASS officer did not review them prior to the COURT hearing and his report made no reference to them.
It was the second report, the first report was basically an assessment of both parties. There is an addendum report that CAFCASS are producing for the final hearing but it is only an update on the way his supervision is proceeding.
initially he came to our house, he stopped seeing our grandson for 12 months due to him attempting to take his life and other involvement with the police, however after the hearing in September the court order allowed him to take him unsupervised. He was not able to take him to his own house due to the social services investigation, but was only able to take him to his girlfriends mothers house. He has since been allowed to take him back to his own house, this was following the birth of his own child 3 months ago. he is currently taking him twice a week for the hours previously mentioned.
Contact appears to be going ok, however we have increased his hours recently with a view to move things forward and on the basis that he was going to wait until my grandson was ready for overnight contact, he has however gone back on his agreement and is pushing for a ridiculous amount of contact during holidays and weekend periods. He is looking for him 50% of holidays and every other weekend.
we don't feel he is anyway ready for this and his father has brought him back on occasions wet, his nappy so tight its marked his leg and his back. he has not yet in our opinion gained the parenting skills required.
notwithstanding this our concern is his past and the potential harm he poses to our grandson. perhaps I did not mention they were not married and only had a short relationship, he appears to be working on the basis they were in a marriage.
we don't know a great deal about his current partner, however our solicitor seems to think that she is venerable hence the protection on their baby. He has not to date had our grandson overnight, he is pushing for it and the final hearing in January is to agree the times and timescale, however the judge at the last hearing was more than happy for him to take him straight away which we find incredible based on his history.
I believe he was convicted, albeit he had community service. He also has a restraining order against him from the girl he assaulted who was one of his previous girlfriends.
He has been to prison for I believe 2-3 months but this was related to another incident.
He also had another appearance in court relating to another girl but she dropped the charges as she was put under pressure from him.