Your sister in law is talking nonsense.
You are perfectly free to speak to any person you like.
Without her permission which might be described as controlling behaviour in itself. I would love to know on what basis she thinks she can restrict your friendships.
You are perfectly free to speak to him. Even if the police tell you not to there is no basis for that unless you wish to have no contact. If you do then you should tell him first before any other party.
What it has to do with your sister in law I don't know.
Try not to have anything to do with women like her.
We all have relationship squabbles. We don't all start taking out non molestation orders and summonsing up the police to deal with personal disputes.
The overwhelming majority of women in the UK get through their whole lives without ever even once making even one allegation of abuse against anybody.
If she has done this to him it will not be long before she does it to others including you. Obviously there are some genuine victims but I am afraid that many, if not most, of what is euphemistically called 'domestic abuse' amounts to normal relationship stuff that happens to us all and we all sort it out ourselves.
Do not allow her to control you.
But do not place yourself in a position where she can make allegations against you.
Best policy is to run a mile from any person with this background. Maybe they are telling the truth. Maybe they are being a drama queen. Do not wait to find out.
Can I clarify anything for you?
Can you respond?
Thanks for the response, obviously we aren't really interested in speaking to the soon ex husband, but all he did was come round and chat about things, he didn't in any way ask me to do anything nor make any comment about his wife (my sitter in law)
So to be clear if I did want to keep talking to him I am legally entitles to and would not be in breach of any molestation order she has placed with him?
Thanks for this, yes indeed we don't want anything to do with both of them at the moment, a shame really as its my partners sister, she has text this morning suggesting if we keep seeing him she feels its best for non communication, a shame as we have two young children who play with their cousins!