We agreed on having a divorce but I told him i won't move out of the house until we have the divorce agreement signed. He wants me to move before that. We cannot agree upon the share time with our son - he wants 50/50 - i think he is too young for this. We cannot agree upon other things but i cannot afford to go to the court with this case. I am not a English citizen, i have a job here but i have no family or friends to help me. I moved here one year ago because of his job.
I do not know what to do in this situation since he is asking me every day to move and he is very verbally aggressive and insistent.
One more question. I understand that if the divorce case involves more countries, the law that governs my divorce is not necessarily the law of the country where I can file for divorce. He is Canadian citizen. I am Romanian citizen. We live in UK since September 2013. I've never been to Canada. He has been in Romania many times - our marriage license was issued by Romanian authorities.
In this case which country law governs my divorce?
Thanks. If i want to go back to Romania with our son is there any way he can force me to stay here? Or if he doesn't want me to leave but i want to leave - who can decide this for us? Court?
The child will be 3 in June 2015. We are still living in the same house, i stayed home with my son till October 2014 when i started work again. Now i spend every minute free with my son, not going out without him, not doing anything which doesn't include him. My husband likes to go out pretty often and coming home really late. The house we are living in is not ours - is rented. His monthly net salary is about 3000 pounds or more. My net monthly salary is about 1300 pounds.
I asked for him to pay what the law says he should pay and i asked to be flexible with the time shared with the little one. The money don\t seem to be a problem so far in our discussions (even though knowing him might become a problem before the divorce is finalized ). Currently the time shared with our son is the problem - he wants 50/50 - at the beginning he proposed that he has the boy 4 days and me 4 days. Now he wants 3 - 3. I cannot agree with this. My son loves his father very much but he is more attached of me and i believe he is too small for this kind of settlement. I proposed a flexible share time where he can spend time every time with his son and slowly thane him over during weekends and see how it goes. But he doesn't want this...he says that the child is going to get used to this situation. Anyway, is there a third solution here besides husbands getting to an agreement or going to court? I think is unlikely me and my husband to get to an agreement and in the same time going to court is too expensive.
Thank you very much.
I would like to ask you one more thing. You said that going to the court needs to be expensive if i deal with the matter myself - is there any other option? What if he goes to the court but i cannot afford this but in the same time i cannot accept his conditions to end this marriage? Based on your experience is there any chance the court will allow me to go back to live in Romania with my child permanently? I used to have a well paid job in Romania, a senior role, and here in UK i took a step back in my carrier and i have a junior role not that well paid. The only reason i am here is because of my husband's job and to keep the family united but now that is falling apart i don't see any reason to continue living here. All my family and friends are in Romania. I have a big family who can support me anytime i need and my son is really close to them. Here i have nobody. I am asking this because i know that my husband will never agree to this - we had the discussion before.
Thank you very much
And one more thing. We've already been to family mediation and after talking with both of us separately the mediator concluded that this marriage is over, that we must look in the future and leave the past behind and she advised us to talk to a solicitor.