The PC has said that he doesn't want to caution me he understands why I reacted towards the other person as I did. What I really need to know is if the police still have to caution me just because the other party is insisting on it? If the PC says that he needs to caution me can I contest this and will the fact that I may have a caution against me cause me problems with travelling abroad, gaining finance etc? The incident involved some 11 year old boys in my sons class bullying him over a period of time and then finally writing some extremely threatening and disgusting messages on Instagram. I read the messages whilst walking my son to school and as so upset and angry that I confronted one of the boys. I did not push, punch or hurt him physically in anyway, however, I did hold him on the shoulders so that I knew I had his attention whilst warning him to stay away from my son. I cannot excuse my actions, however, the threats were real and I naturally wanted to protect my son which the PC and the school understand. Can my wife and I tell me the PC that we in fact want the boys cautioned for their messages. The head teacher read them and thought them serious enough to contact the Police. Sorry for all the question but as you can tell I am rather upset and desperate. Many thanks
Thank you for your response Jo. If the PC says that he needs to caution me can I say that I will be taking legal advice? And if so, may this avert any action by the other party due to the costs that they / we may incur? I am sorry if I sound like I'm trying to wriggle out of this mess but unfortunately I need to make some informed decisions. Thank you again
I am sure that the PC meant that he would like to dispose of this by way of a caution. He actually said that he would not arrest me or that this would ever go to court (his words). I got the feeling that he would rather this just went away so it's really down to the other party I guess. I have written a letter to the family sincerely ***** ***** the PC hopes will help settle things down. I'm very grateful for your responses and it has been very useful just to understand where I stand on a number of points.
Thank you Jo. I was always mindful when I wrote a letter of apology to the school and to the parents not to actually go in to too much detail i.e. I said this and held him like this etc. I referred to what happened as an incident and did not go in to the detail. Ok, so if the PC says that he needs to caution me I will need to visit the police station where I will be interviewed and offered a solicitor? I take it that I could take my own solicitor with me?