Thank you for this.
Can I ask please, what I can do regarding his contribution to my son's medical needs, which could become even considarable now. He has refused him the use of medical cover we have through his workplace or make any contribution. in a number of occassions our son has been in emergencies, requiring counselling to support him, which has to be paid for privately. He did this to get back at my son, part of his vindictive attitude towards him for speaking out to Caffcass. He categoricalyl said that he has disowned for that and I begged not to hate him for speaking out but to see it as crying out to him. My son thought dad would hear him and all would be fine again but let down!
There will be more regular hospital attendance from March as they are stepping up his monitoring in case he needs dialysis. And I will have to change my work routine or give it up. Also I have been told that I have to work with dieticians for his diet plans from now on etc. I don't know what the future holds and I'd like to have a settlement that will avoid me having to contact him in the future for financial support for our son as this has proven very difficult to date.
I also have my own needs to consider as I have medical issues too. I have put my son first as always and it is impacting on my health as I srtuggle to make adequate provision for me and I will need to do this to cope with my disability long term. He knows all these, he likes to make his weight felt and I believe he's never really nice to our son because of his medical condition.
He seems to think anything done for him as a waste on him by his attitude to date and was visibly hostile to him wanting anything eg xmas present, birthday treats etc.
Please let me know if and how I can include this in the Finacial application and how best to go about it.