My daughter Isabella is seven years old she has had contact with my ex usually every other weekend and sometimes once during the week on the odd occasion but usually as and when he feels like it. His name isnt on her birth certificate or on any school records etc and he is not allowed to collect her from school. I have lived with my parents for a few years in my hometown and now I am in my own home in essex. He lives in Essex and I am now moving back to my family in the Lake district it is also where my new partner lives. My ex and I spoke on phone today and agreed to be friends (to keep peace) but he is unpredictable so I want to know that I am in a strong legal position in case anything happens. I am also scared to give him my new address. Thank you. Katherine
sorry for the late response. Himself and his mother have in the past year since I have lived in essex have had my daughter every other weekend friday evening through to sunday, this hasn't been consistent and all communication has been through my mother as the mediator as I blocked his number due to sending me negative texts. I think from now on it is best supervised contact considering his unstable behavior. I have verbally agreed with him over the phone yesterday that he sees us both together one afternoon/eve per week after school (to keep him calm and happy) that is until I move away. I had to go out for a meal with him this evening which was the last thing I wanted to do but feel I have to keep the peace. I honestly do not want to see him ever again once I move away. He is very manipulative making me feel intimidated in my own home saying my new partner isn't allowed to stay with me at my home locally where his family could see us together which is ridiculous. He is also convinced he is going to get me in to a relationship with him after I have told him many times I m not interested. Many thanks. Katherine
Sorry for the late response I was with my family in the lake district just got back to my home in essex. He sent my mum an email which she forwarded to me still wanting his name on my daughters certificate. Can he force himself to be added on to my daughters birth certificate without my permission by taking me to court? I dont think he would as his solicitor already warned him he has no legal rights even to spend time alone with my daughter unless his name is ***** ***** He advised him to start paying me to show that he is being supportive to have a stronger case and so I am going to change my account details next week. I am just scared of him taking me to court to prove he is the father when he has not supported us in any way financially in the past emotionally unstable as well as being a violent man. I am also now engaged to my new partner and we have decided to put his name on instead of my exs as he is a stable father figure in my daughters life and for additional protection. When I move away in a few months I was happy for my daughter to see my ex during the school holidays or every six weeks but now I am thinking of not giving him a forwarding address and even changing my name so he cant find me. Also I may have to warn him that I will be contacting the police taking further action if he continues to harrass me. Please let me know your thoughts and the best advise you can give me in the situation for the best interest of myself and my daughter.