Thank you for replying.
My Mother's assets are approximately £36,000 in a Halifax bank account and 18 acres of land in County Mayo, Ireland.
As for my Mother's personal possessions such as jewellery she was not a woman who owned much Jewellery - she had promised her wedding ring, engagement ring and eternity ring to my two sister's - they cared for her at home up until she passed away. My younger sister (not the executor) has my Mother's jewellery in her possesion but we are concerned that because my Mother gave these rings to my sister, my sister who is the executor will challenge this.
I look forward to hearing from you.
My other sister and my daughter have seen a copy of the will.
The solicitors are saying they have not got the original will and that was kept by my Mother but I was told by my deceased sister that my Mother's will was kept in the safe at the law firm along with my Father's will.
According to the email, I have received from my sister (Executor) she met with the solicitor concerning my Mother's will and she showed them the copy of the will that was made at their law firm. The solicitor confirmed that there was no will for my Mother in their safe. They acknowledged that my Father's will and my deceased sister's will had been kept in their safe but they had nothing for my Mother. They acknowledged that the copy of my Mother's will shown to them was a will they would have drawn up.
Basically the original will has gone missing and according to my sister who is the executor - a copy of a will is of no use. However, the solicitor said she was going to speak to another solicitor to see if there was anything that could be done.
My mother's will stipulated her estate was to be shared equally amongst her children.
My Mother and Father had a mirrored will drawn up - I do have a copy of my Father's will.
To make it easier for you - I have copied what my sister the executor wrote in the email that she sent to me at the end of last week. It is as follows; * Please note where my sister writes the name 'Ger' this was the name of my deceased sister, her name was Geraldine but she was called Ger by the family.
I went to their offices at the end of January 2015 and handed in documents. I went to an appointment with Stephanie Nedas on 2 February 2015. She informed me that they did not have any documents/file relating to Mum. They had a file for Dad and for Ger but nothing in relation to Mum.
A name search on their computer system did show up an R A Calvey but this data was deleted in 2008 but they stressed that this would have been an empty data file.
She accepted that the photocopy was a will that their office had drawn up but as far as she could see they did not have the original will.
She also accepted that from my point of view it would seem strange that they had no trace of Mum having even made a will with them when she did do per the photocopy on the same day that Dad had made his will.
She then showed me a piece of paper found in Dad’s file stating that we were keeping his original will and not them and this was signed by Ger and myself. She acknowledged that this was Dad’s file and not Mum’s but that it would suggest that we would have done the same with Mum’s will which I had to agree with.
I hope that makes sense?
To be honest the priority is getting matters dealt with - is it acceptable in the eyes of the law that no contact has been made by my sister to any of the beneficiaries?
It is four and a half years since my Mother passed away and nothing has been done and she put the blame on me, saying that I had not got in contact with her!
My sister is extremely slow to act and in truth to use the phrase "She makes a mountain out of a molehill'.
What would your advice be?
Thank you Clare,
Please could I ask
1) Am I right in thinking that my sister should have contacted us after my Mother's death - let's say within a year to notify us as to what was happening with my Mother's will. What would be classed as an acceptable length of time for her to have contacted the beneficiaries?
2) The problem we have had is that she keeps saying she is waiting for a solicitor to get back to her or that she has builders in her home and chaos to deal with! Then she says she will get back to us in due course and we don't hear from her until weeks/months later. Basically she is constantly stalling things? If she continues to deal with my Mother's estate - has she got an obligation to keep us updated?
Thanks for your prompt replies and for your help and advice. It is much appreciated.
I appreciate the link you attached to your last message, that is most helpful.
Mrs Maureen Bralee
Sorry I forgot to ask you one question, can I ask my sister for a copy of the will that she has in her possession? Am I entitled to be given a copy?