Divorce was five years ago and he pays child maintenance through a court order not CSA as being a high flying corporate Finance guy, My divorce solicitor didn't want him messing around with the children's money. That has been up and running for 5 years now, never increases and the negligent case was not settled then NHSLA only accepted negligence last summer after 10 years.
I will receive past care yes, but it is only a 50% case not a full 100%.
No nothing like that. Just when I had to sell the adapted bungalow to pay him his half of the equity. Only a finance order for the children which is in place till they both reach their 18th birthday then he pays no more.
I get nothing, except the boys money each month. Property was sold off and split equally (not much). he has no financial responsibility to me, only his sons till they are 18.
When my eldest was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy and life limiting Epilipsie, he very rarely attended hospital appointments, left me in hospital with my sons when he was rushed in and I attended all appointments on my own, physio sessions, OT ect. He turned up for the battle with the Educational Authority, but most of the time he was "working late" or on "business trips".
I was married but a single parent.
My sons and I stayed in the bungalow for a year, but his intimidation and his behaviour was starting to frighten me and my Divorce solicitor and he contacted my sons litigation lawyer to ask if the small amount of money that had been released for initial care, would be enough for us to move to rented to be near my family but to get out of the county we were in to keep us safe.
So we sorted out a rental bungalow till my son's case has been concluded and the bungalow was sold and the equity was split 50/50, not much came out with £25k which I had to pay the loan and credit card he left me with that he ran up with his mistress.
I did the best I could with the divorce and my divorce solicitor tried to get it through as quickly as he could to keep the ex away because of his behaviour.
Nice man, not, he has mental issues and is not pleasant.
Does this help?
thank you for your reply, there is no justice is there? this country is pathetic with its law. We are as antiquated as ever when it comes to divorce, contact and family law. I stood by my sons, I haven't put myself first I take care of them both every day at a cost to my own health at times. No father should be allowed to walk and way and dump their kids just because its to hard work, not least when they are disabled. We are all entitled to be happy in life, but NOT at the expense of a disabled child or any child.
We should look to America where their Family Law is modern up to date. If a father or mother for that matter walks and dumps their child and has no contact, then the Judge revokes Parental Responsibility and that parent is entitled to no imput on that child except the maintenance payments. Then if the parent decides to become a parent again, they have to do Parenting classes, they undergo counselling, then and only then will the Judge decide if that parent can have the PR back.
To think, that my son has to pay his useless father out of a small 50% claim for not being around and his new family having a nice life of my sons disability, makes me want to vomit.
How is that fair? my poor little boy.
Thank you again for your time.