hi, she has started divorce proceeding, without advising me, and she has made up reasons to divorce so that i cant do anything. there is 50 thousand with solicitors, we have agreed that she keeps 30k and i get 20k, we are losing out on interest and everything,, i just want my share so i can move out of my parents , which i was only temporarily meant to be staying at. when we sold the house we were living apart but still together , still dating etc, it was only when i sent her a letter about child maintenance , that i want to pay her in to her bank account not in cash payments, that she got angry and decided she wants divorce. all she has to do is ring the solicotors and confirm the letter that she signed, but she keeps using me to do jobs for her, and still demands cash payments from me. im trying to keep everything amicable as possible, i even have her texts msgs. we still communicate well, its just she wont ring.
i'm not sure, i did reply to the letter saying that im not 100% sure she wants a divorce, and gave my reasons why, i even spoke to my wife about the divorce letter, her replies were," its only a bit of paper, we can still date, i can't cancle it as ive paid for it". so since then i dont think she has cancelled it, but i have heard nothing since the letter.(4 weeks). im tryng to settle things without court and court cost being involved. i just need to know how can i get my money if she wont ring? she replies on me to do all er little jobs for her, which i do for her, but she says she will ring tomorrow,everyday. im currently viewing properties, i even said to her when i get my house she can move in with me when im settled. shes stuck in the middle of me and her son ( my step son) the main reason behind the divorce.