Thank you very much for taking the time to try and help.
I think divorce is the only option, my intent in contacting you is really to try and settle my mind on a few matters and to try as hard as I can not to drag too much rubbish through the courts which will only hurt not just the two of us, but families and friends.
I will of course arrange the divorce in the UK.
Just a very brief addition to the above to help you, I hope.
I do have all the original documentation to confirm all of this information.
Before moving to S,Italy, we bought and sold 3 properties which required extensive renovation, we made reasonable profits on each sale.
Unknown to me, because I am so stupid and did not check. All the financial arrangements, mortgages, etc, were being made and dealt with through my wife's personal bank account/s. The mortgages were in joint names.
After settling in here in S, Italy we decided to do the same thing, buy, renovate and sell some properties which we did very successfully.
Again, none of the transactions ever went through our Italian or UK banks.
I have only in the past six months or so steeled myself for the very first time in nearly 20 years, to actually start looking into my bank situation.
I had complete faith and trust that I would find a considerable sum of money that could be equally divided.
I was shocked to find that I was almost penniless apart from the meager UK pension and even then she was still accessing the account almost on a daily basis and actually paying her rent as well.
The forensic accountant is a retired lady who now offers her help free of charge to assist people in my situation.
She has discovered by going back 7 or 8 years into the UK and Italian bank statements that the planning my wife went through has been amongst the very worst she has ever come across.
I hope this small extra bit of information helps.
I am now 70 years of age, I am not a greedy or selfish person, I would rather deal with this in as civilised a manner as I can as my health after two small strokes due entirely to the stress of this matter, is not the best.
I would like to make her an offer.
She can keep every penny from the sale of her own original house, Half the money from the sale of my business which was included in the house sale, that she lets me have, say, £50,000 and signs this Italian home over to me.
She can keep all of the rest of the ill gotten gains and we both walk away with some dignity.
Is this feasible?.
Thank you again for your time.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards ***** ***** Italy