I forgot to mention that as up till january of this year she was still going to his flat at weekends and stayed there but according to her statement the relationship had broken down in april 2014, this as far as i can see, why would she got to his flat till January of this year
Thankyou very much for your reply, as court appearence is on May 1st what should he do now as he will not have time to reply to these accusations, and also has limited funds
One more question for now, they both worked at the place, there was an order preventing them to be any where near each other. and on her days off would go into the workplace when she new what shift he was working.also she would go out for walks when she new that they would bump in to him, she was also told that she must seek employment elsewhere or would be sacked by her manager.
many thanks for your replies if i need any further advice i will contact you, once again many thanks
Hi Jo if your still online i have a further question to ask,
having read again through this non molestation order, there are sections where she has said rape, but has been crossed out and sexual assault has been hand written above this is twice in order. on last section rape has been left, this i presume has happened since the break up, but they have not been together since 12th January of this year
as far as we can see
he has 3 options
1 to accept the molestation order
2 to take an undertaking
3 is to fight the order
he his suffering severe anxiety at present, and depresion
and is currently being seen by our local mental health team
is the best option to take an undertaking
what rights does he have if she contact him in any way.
over the last few months they have met a few times and had a drink at one of our local pubs just as friends, this she does not have had put in this molestation order, and we know why she has done that.
now a question that i have in this order there is an exclusion article that he is not allowed within 100 mtrs. i would like to know that if my son does happen to go out with his friends to a local pub, and she turns up there, is she the one that has broken this order and she is nasty enough to phone the police to have him arrested, this she is likely to do. she has before gone into where he works and then burst into tears for no reason. also she has been showing people texts that my son has sent to her, but she has deleted all text from there conversation that she has sent, fortunately my son has kept all the text messages that she has sent.
last one jo
his question is does he need to go to court to sign this documentation.
i am sure he will have to but he wanted to ask to maake sure
sorry to take up your time, but all so far is most useful to me
my son was stupid and txt her to sort out the money which he owed her. so now restraining order against him and now the problem he has is that she can go into where he works and possibly use that against him, he has been told that best thing for him to do is go to another part of the pub, so there can be no problem and to phone police and have her removed. at the moment he is staying with me, when we spoke to the police today the lady that deals with this sort of thing said that the restraining order is not worth the paper it is written on. as there is no protection for him if she can do anything she wishes, we have already seen around the area where i live an as far as we know there is no reason for her to be up this part of the Island
What i would like to know is there anyway we can stop her from going any where near where he works and also from the area near to where i live, as my son is staying with me at the. He has the restaraining order against him which I can understand, but she can go anywhere she wishes, into his work or in the area where i live, which she has been doing, is there anything we can do to stop her from doing this
there is no reason whatsoever for her to be within this area of the island as she can get to her place of work, and there are many pubs and restaraunts down the other end of the Island where she live.She knows very well that she can go into where he works and we feel that this is harrisment.