I have been accused of abusing a related children (2 girls), after a long standing argument within the family... The accusations were made three days after another huge row between my wife and her sister about another family matter...plus an extreme history of in-fighting, dysfunctional relationships and all.So far I have been interviewed once on March 23rd.Then bailed with NO conditions and the 2nd interview date has been postponed twice - now May 14th, again no bail conditions applied when dates changed.I have a solicitor handling this matter on the criminal defence side as I seem unable to contest this alone.To the points made, my wife of 18 years initially was in disbelief and we had been working together to try and demonstrate how this could not be, however, she was given clearance by police to contact her sister (mother of 'victim') and several conversations have taken place within her family...she now feels she does not know who/what to believe.
My wife was told by a friend (also a solicitor) that it would be better if I temporarily moved out of the family home as it would protect our two sons from exposure to police and social services attention...they have interviewed them anyway (Ok with me apart from the impact on them - nothing to hide).From the first interview March 23 to the evening of April 14 I had been at home and trying to carry on as normal, but agreed reluctantly to stay elsewhere for a while.The moment I left, my wife called the solicitor/friend back, then called the police - to apparently 'keep me right' regarding my whereabouts (but I had no bail conditions) and within 24 hours had changed the locks.I and MY family have been prevented or 'banned' from contacting our sons and myh wife has been changing access and passwords to the childrens' school info platforms, email addresses including hers, opening my post which was arriving at home (given her current 'stance' I am not comfortable with this) and preparing to divert her salary out of our joint account into a new account...our 'deal' was she earns in the short term...9-5 job / good salary paid monthly, while I was more long term, running our jointly owned property company, where we have property assets and I only really 'earn' when we sell a property.
So there will be no monthly income stream for me after the end of this month from our joint account.We also co-own a property (£600,000 value / £320,000 joint mortgage) but the conversations about everything financial has now been reduced to text only - including potentially winding up the business.
She claims all of this is to protect her and our sons form potential harm, should this matter go any further (given it is essentially my word against these two girls, even though I can clearly explain where I was when the events 'took place' it seems it might).
However, while I have been keeping my end of the original 'deal' made as I 'left' the family home..that was to stay nearby in case needed and to bring the business into full order (admin / outstanding jobs) in case things went wrong for me.Meanwhile, I feel I have been put into total isolation and being systematically detached from the family unit, including financially.
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Thanks.However, I will not get a key..she has now contacted the police, after I asked her face to face...(I saw her near her workplace, but spoke to her away from it, in a main high street / calm / polite,etc) about this and they called me offering 'friendly' advice that my wife is worried I may get aggressive and I should continue to avoid her, the house and my kids, in order to maintain a well conducted process,
You asked about values/equity/the business - where do I stand here?
See the comments about joint account / salary diversion / house equity,etc