A normal week right now has been.
I stay at the mothers house on Wednesday night. I arrive in the afternoon and take her for a walk by myself for a few hours.
I pick her up on Saturday at 11am and then have her by myself for 5-6 hours and then take her back to her mums by 6-7pm.
I then stay on the Saturday night and leave on the Sunday morning.
The mother has now said that me staying over will not be viable anymore. Note, this all started where she was ill and on medication after 3 weeks and has been the case for the last 12 weeks.
My access has been quite reasonable so far however when the Mother changes her mind she has the ability to withdraw it at a whim.
Moving forward, if I can not stay there as it no longer suits the mother, I am refusing to have my limited access revoked at short notice through no choice of my own.
Incidentally, the mother has now booked to visit family in Spain from 19th May 2015 and has only brought a one way ticket. She is planning to return on 6th June but has said this is not guaranteed.
From my point it could be 17 days or much longer!
The mother has said that she is the main parent and I have no choices and can not stop her.
I am not trying to stop her or cause conflict but I do want to have some fairness and wish to know my rights.
Also, just as background, I have been paying the monthly maintenance since 1 month before birth (as I thought fair)
I have also verbally agreed (as the mother asked) to pay 50% of the Nursery fees from January 2016 which is a further £375 per month for 24 months. This is separate and in addition to child maintenance.
My objective is to have a 'normal' relationship with my daughter with no animosity with the mother, however, it seems that the mother is controlling things and has the ability to withdraw things when she chooses.