Wife caused all kinds of problems - what to do? She had an affair during marriage for 3 years. She has made up lies that I was violent, and got me thrown out of my own house using an occupation order without me being present in court. This is so her lover can move into my house. He refuses to pay me rent. It is my house in my sole name and she has never worked. What shall i do? Update: NB: I have a daughter who lives with wife, who has autism - she was serious and now very well. she has constant medical and educational input which i manage. Her tutors are employed by me and teach at wife's adddress. I am with my daughter every week all weekend and twice in the week. Wife has threatened to block daughters medical treatment and education if i try to get my house back or move her lover out - this will destroy my gorgeous daughter which i cant do
Update 3: As well as divorce do i:Small claims on lover for rent Charge her for perjury in court Raise small claim against both of them for theft and CCJ Charge for repairs to house Charge re her blackmailing me and damaging my daughters health and education Remove occupation order and accusation of domestic violence
My daughter is 10
My wife does not have any income and does not work and never has worked so is on benefits
Divorce is lodged (petition raised and paid and in the court) but she has not replied to it - it was given a court number 6 months ago
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Hi Clare - thanks that's useful information to me. I kind of feel you are probably giving very good advice, but it does feel unjust too so I want to double check a few points:
The lover is not a guest he is a permanent resident in my house which is in my sole name. I spent years paying for this house living in poverty myself to save up deposit, and now he is using it and all my possessions. Why should he live there as permanent address, rent free - that cant be right?
He has also taken out a payday loan and a phone, by stealing my identity, which I want to get him charged for, as he has access to all my personal information (ie everything I possess is in the house)
He also has previous CCJs and 2 criminal charges for DV against his ex wife. The house is also a pigsty and so is the garden now. Also my daughter has autism and verbal dyspraxia and I have recovered her and continue to do us which has to be done privately, as no nhs treatment exists. For these reasons I think I want custody
About perjury, are you saying it is fine to lie in court then? I dont see it will be expensive if I raise and action it without a solicitor?
A lot of my possessions have been damaged or stolen are you saying that is legally fine?
Are you saying blackmail is fine eg her saying" dont ask for your possessions/ dont tell social services my house is a pigsty or i dont feed my child properly, otherwise I will stop you seeing your daughter?
Occupation order Im just worried about it being on my record forever even when it expires in 3 months, which may affect e in the future.
Hello. The main problem now is my wife says if I try to divorce her she will stop me seeing my child, treating her health, or providing the home education tutors
The lover has gone for good, and I do not know if I can mvoe back into my house or not. The Occupation order was for a year and now expired, but was based on lies which she could just repeat
How do i get out of this mess?