Hi Clare - thanks that's useful information to me. I kind of feel you are probably giving very good advice, but it does feel unjust too so I want to double check a few points:
The lover is not a guest he is a permanent resident in my house which is in my sole name. I spent years paying for this house living in poverty myself to save up deposit, and now he is using it and all my possessions. Why should he live there as permanent address, rent free - that cant be right?
He has also taken out a payday loan and a phone, by stealing my identity, which I want to get him charged for, as he has access to all my personal information (ie everything I possess is in the house)
He also has previous CCJs and 2 criminal charges for DV against his ex wife. The house is also a pigsty and so is the garden now. Also my daughter has autism and verbal dyspraxia and I have recovered her and continue to do us which has to be done privately, as no nhs treatment exists. For these reasons I think I want custody
About perjury, are you saying it is fine to lie in court then? I dont see it will be expensive if I raise and action it without a solicitor?
A lot of my possessions have been damaged or stolen are you saying that is legally fine?
Are you saying blackmail is fine eg her saying" dont ask for your possessions/ dont tell social services my house is a pigsty or i dont feed my child properly, otherwise I will stop you seeing your daughter?
Occupation order Im just worried about it being on my record forever even when it expires in 3 months, which may affect e in the future.