Thank you for your prompt response. Here is an outline of the situation.
My husband suffers from Parkinson's disease, is 82 years old and may have the onset of dementia. We are married for 29 years,he has four sons from his late wife. Of the four sons, one has a criminal record, and a string of shady business deals behind him.
The rest of us, I and 3 sons, are struggling to look after his welfare, while my husband's health and behaviour deteriorates, this includes on his part, creating considerable havoc in the family. He has put the son with the criminal record on the POA, as well as myself and another son. Neither the third son nor I want to share POA with Jonathan, with his past conviction for drug dealing.
My husband's own lawyer tries to advise him, but we are at a stage were it is impossible to speak logically to him, all we get is abusive responses (aggressive behaviour due to his condition in part) Meanwhile I am his sole carer, though fully supported emotionally by his other sons, and I am at the end of my tether, and want to make sure I can protect myself from any potential wrongdoing.
I appreciate your help,
The POA was signed a few weeks ago, and has not come into effect yet unless/until my husband is declared incompetent (could happen soon).
We have single power up to expenses of £5000, above that two signatories are required up to £10.000, and above £10.000, the three of us have to sign. The 3rd son lives abroad, and has already asked his father to be removed from the POA. Jonathan lives in the UK.
There is no actual record of Jonathan abusing his father financially.
I am not sure the POA is a lasting POA, my husband is being advised by lawyers,bank and doctors for the last 2 years to make a POA, his son came to visit from abroad and on seeing his condition we again spoke to him about it, he has changed his mind many times,drawing and redrawing this with his lawyers, but basically 'not listening' to anyone, and finally making an erratic decision at the last minute, so I signed when spaced out due to a lack of sleep, don't have a copy,but suppose I could obtain one from the lawyer?
Thank you for your very informative reply.
One last question:
re 'Only your husband can make a decision to remove or appoint an attorney'
Is this absolute, is it not possible to 'resign' one's power of attorney? I am appalled as I had to sign under pressure (due to time, lack of sleep and other contributing factors) Unusually for me, not reading the detail.
And thanks again for an excellent service,