I have been alone sometimes like after school and a few evenings if my partner goes out. But she admits that over the past few years after the split she's let the discipline drop with the boys and now I'm here and she's had some extra support she's happy to be moving forward with things. But I keep to whats been said and I don't give in to things that have been removed like games and iPods. I believe she's a little soft as they both talk her round or just it. It's not an easy thing to type about as so much goes on from shouting, climbing on work tops, fighting each other, not listening to their mum,
This is the kind of things that happen -
So far a zero tolerance now in the house to any form of fighting - so both caught about to jump on each other when a movie was on, it was 8pm so tv off and told to go to bed with no TV for the morning - 9 yr old said it’s the 11yr olds falt (which is aways what he says).
11 yr old then up stairs getting stroppy with his mum I could hear him calling her “Your Stupid” and “I don’t care”. then I hear my partner saying Im taking your lights because he smashed the back of his bedroom door into the wall (there is a hole here already due to him doing this before) so lights taken and no TV at all for tomorrow also iPad and lap top kept as I said one week he said “Fine” ok I said two weeks.
Then 11yr old open my partners bed room door into to her while she changed, she closed it and said - don’t do that again as you nearly hit me then she shut the door and he opened it again with FORCE - so the iPad and lap top have been kept for another week.
so you can see its tough on my partner and the ex likes the fact she struggles and finds it tough on her own - now I'm here and have three kids of my own I back her up and keep to whats been put in place.
I will say the boys are good when it's just them and me - it's just the way they behave with their mum - it's hard to just sit back and watch.