After the boy was born we had him all the time for about three months, and when the father felt able he was gradually given back to him. We then had him so stay over, from time to time a few times each month, and would look after him when his father practiced his music etc. His father would go away for days or a week to do gigs, sometimes abroad, so we had him for longer periods. After about two years of enjoying regular contact, it diminished to about once a month, when we could take him to the zoo's, beach parks ect. He loved these times, for which we have rather a lot of smiley photos. Probably his second most pleasurable activity was to play in our garden with his nan and myself. We had a huge trampoline, and we have many photos testifying to his extreme pleasure of playing with his nan on this. We would play all sorts of games, we had a sand pit in which we would make all sorts of things.
We had a karaoke set up in a large chalet, he loved to sing and shout on the microphones. His joy was so great and he laughed so much he sometime had a job to stand up. You can imagine the pleasure we had with him. When he started school the visits were shortened to two hours about once a month, but sometimes we were allowed to visit him at home. On the final time we were allowed to have him his father brought him to us. When his nan opened the door he threw himself at her, hugging her and asking for his grandfather, (Me) he ran in to meet me hugging me very tightly. It is our belief that perhaps his father does not realize that a little boy can love and need many people. Perhaps he felt that his love for us meant that his love for his father was diminishing. His father does not believe in letting him cry if he falls over. Once when he fell in his sitting room only slightly hurting himself, his nan said "Oh dear, come for a cuddle, and he ran to her, she kissed his head and made his feel better. But his father was very angry, saying "Leave him alone, don't baby him, he has to grow up tough." He shouldn't cry! So our time with him was soon stopped after that. He simply would not let us see him again.
Thank you for reading this, we are very sad indeed, as we feel the boy must be very unhappy. Has the father told him we don't love him any more? He also has a large family of doting aunts uncles and cousins. He has cut off all contact with them.
John R House